There's a girl who I was hanging out with for a while, we are very compatible, many of the same interests. She is very insightful, she is so beautiful it's almost intimidating.  The last time I saw her, we kissed for ages. We had really "deep" discussions, very open discussions, not about our feelings but mostly speculating about what reality is and how we fit into it.  The next day she told me that she didn't want to pursue anything romantically with me.    I was wondering, if I built enough momentum within my healthy habits, and became clearer on my life purpose until I see her again, would she want to be with me? We are still quite good friends and talk maybe once every couple weeks. I think I'd want her to be in my life regardless.