Meditation and yoga to get girls?

[SamC]

@Thestarguitarist14

12 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

It is your sexual neediness that prevents you from having sex.  Here you are, spending all your time wanting sex instead of having it.

 

You can be mature and realize that you do not have to succumb to your animalistic desires.  Instead of being a conscious creator, you are being an unconscious creator.

Yeah for sure! The problem however is that my ego desires a girlfriend ( not only sex). It's like the hierarchy of needs. I know it wont fulfill me logically but if I disregard sex and getting a girlfriend my ego probably wont be able to transcend itself. My ego is probably not ready to let go.

So the question is, should I spirituality purify myself to then feel more secure to get girls + go out and be social or should I skip the spiritual purification for right now and just focus on getting a girlfriend. What's your thoughts?@Leo Gura

[SamC]

9 hours ago, Akemrelax said:

I don't get why you need to have sex. Getting into a relationship purely based on sex is a bad idea, call me old fashioned. Often times you have to be fake and lie to the girl to get into her pants, even if you don't lie you're probably putting on front, and women don't like it when you play with their emotions. Not to mention it feels fake and wrong to do that. Why don't you try getting a hooker if you think you're missing out on sex? 

Don't cave into societal pressures and your own prejudices. There is so much porn nowadays how come that does not fulfill you? Girls of every type on your finger tips, something not even kings had in the past! Why demonize porn, it can be used effectively to fulfill a basic need.

Focus on your own life then get into a relationship with a person you actually fall in love with! 

I want a girlfriend, not just sex lol. Porn is super toxic and a hooker is not the right answer. I hear what you're saying though - find a real relationship and find a way to deal with the cravings and prejudices til then. Thanks for your reply!

[Thestarguitarist14]

6 hours ago, SamC said:

@SamC You have to realize that girls can sniff out neediness, particularly sexual neediness, miles away.  If you feel that women are resisting you, this is why.  
 

What you can do is let good of your need to have sex and work on being present with the women you meet.  Check out some YouTube videos on shamanic tapping for releasing sexual neediness.  Matter of fact,  here’s one.  Those work great.  You can probably find some guided meditations on it too

 

Edited September 19, 2020 by Thestarguitarist14

[SamC]

 

@Thestarguitarist14

I have noticed that ?.  Girls are crazy at noticing stuff, it's facinating. Thanks for the schematic tappin, I will definitely try it!

 

[Byun Sean]

have sex with all the girls you want mate.

as long as it doesn't distract you from doing the work why not?

 

My initial motivation to get on the spiritual path was to get better in a video game I enjoyed.

[SamC]

On 2020-09-25 at 6:52 AM, Byun Sean said:

have sex with all the girls you want mate.

as long as it doesn't distract you from doing the work why not?

 

My initial motivation to get on the spiritual path was to get better in a video game I enjoyed.

Words bro

[Javfly33]

I've tried this, and it hasn't worked.

Spirituality is beyond this materialistic realms.

If you need to satisfy this realms, better tread with a more materialistic approach 

[everythingisnothing]

@SamC What I have noticed with meditation (almost 4 years in now) is that I am able to relax my body more deeply during the day. I have Access to deeper layers of fine muscles (around the heart are for example) which helps me to be more open-hearted and feel my intuition more. Whenever I am with a girl, I am hyper focused on relaxing, trusting whatever happens and letting go. I am able to feel subtle impulses from my intuition and know/feel what the perfect next action would be. 
Meditation has also helped me to build more tolerance towards my own emotions, feeling them without wanting to change them. This is also a quality women look for in a men: expressing themselves without the men wanting to solve it. Just being able to listen carefully and being open for the emotion in one‘s body without building resistance.

There are definitely many benefits to it and it will help you with women, so keep going!??‍♂️

[Javfly33]

On 19/9/2020 at 7:21 AM, Akemrelax said:

That's because you think of it as a negative. It doesn't cause anti-social behavior, shame, guilt, or self-esteem, by itself, you feel those because of your worldview and how you use it. Shame, guilt, and self-esteem especially is caused by your own projections, nothing is inherently shameful.

Very well said

[AdamDiC]

It's not as black or white as choosing either awakening or girls lol.

Awakening is not something that happens overnight, it takes years of focus, study, and practice.

 If you still desire women you will probably still desire them when you have awakened, and it might arise as a shadow side.

So I say just do both. Go get all the girls you want while at the same time you meditate and study. They won't interfere with each other and if they do it's not a big deal. You created the interference with your mind. Just don't create and tell yourself it will work.