How to ease sexual tension?

[Marianitozz]

Hello! How you deal with sexual tension, when you don't have a partener? Now I am transitioning from green to yellow so I have a lot of work putting my projects together, but on the other hand I have a craving for someone to stay with me and bond deeply. When I release my sexual tension through porn is liberating for short time, but after is like i throwed gas on fire, the craving intensifies, so I am in a kind of downward loop. In one of the Leo's video he said that you can be capable to give you r self the love that you crave from outside, but how? I really want to be independent and not to rely on someone else for my well being.

[Farnaby]

@Marianitozz I think in theory it's possible to transcend human needs, but since we happen to inhabit a body, there are some needs that require another person. 

Not saying that you can't deeply connect with yourself, but deeply connecting with another person gives you a whole set of different and important experiences.

Of course no experience will ever satisfy you completely, because it's impermanent. But that doesn't mean it's bad or that you shouldn't pursue these experiences. It means that it's important not to forget that you won't find permanent bliss in any of them. 

So why not look for a partner if that is what you want now? 

[hamedsf]

you can transmute it in a medium term but at the end of the day, seek a partner for yourself in an un-needy manner