trouble making decisions.

[BjarkeT]

I find it hard to chose between two things does anyone have any tips that can help make it easier to make a decision? Maybe I am overthinking it.

[Elham]

Choices like what?

[BjarkeT]

@Elham Well like going to the chess club on monday or stay at home. 

I could have a good time in the chess club with some people but at home, I can entertain my self with whatever I want.

I really value the time I have to be productive also but that make it hard to chose something that makes's me not productive 

Edited September 4, 2020 by BjarkeT

[Elham]

Well try to go with more challenging choices more often because it's fun and never ever regret of your choice or imagine what would happen if you went the other way.

I think it would be better if you didn't  overthink on small issues so much because it takes lots of energy! Doesn't it?

[BjarkeT]

@Elham It doesn't drain too much energy from me to be honest but it definitely makes it harder for me to decide.

[Elham]

Maybe its hard because you are a result-oriented person.

[BjarkeT]

@Elham Yeah good point.

[RobertZ]

Analyze alternatives with criteria.

Make an X/Y chart. On the one axis, list the options.

On the other axis, list the criteria (e.g., what is important to you; what you want; what you are concerned about; how you decide which option to pick).

Try to generate a third option, if possible.

Then, in the chart, write advantages / disadvantages, or use numbers, or use colours (e.g,. Red = bad, yellow = moderate; Green = good). 

[Someone here]

Let go and let the decision just happen naturally. "You" are not making it anyways. 

[Fadl]

Having different choices in life means that the person is not completely free, a free person does not have choices at all, he simply knows the way.
No one is completely free because everyone is limited (our bodies, our brains our psychology … etc). 

I don’t know, just take it easy on yourself, I mean a decision like (should I go to the chess club or stay home) is not that important, no?
 

[lmfao]

@BjarkeT So you're thinking, deciding whether to go chess. You're wavering. Is it that you want to want to do one of the options that you've decided is better, but you can't get your heart behind it? And so it is then that you think that doing something you can't get your heart behind will make you miserable? But then you wonder if there's the possibility you can see beyond the misery and deconstruct it.

Such situations like this, it's tough. The mind will fluctuate, you may decide something 1 minute but change your mind the next if the tension is that much. All you can do is not hate yourself for fluctuating and go with it. Let the pressurised gas expand. 

Edited September 7, 2020 by lmfao

[Nicco]

@BjarkeT What do you value the most? Is one day in a week okey to have some chess clubb activity or not?  Try go with whatever pops up in your mind and body after asking those kind of questions.

Edited September 8, 2020 by Nicco