what would you do? i need advice. life purpose, taking time seriously

[Avi Khomutovsky]

hey everybody this is my first post here, i really feel a little bit confused and little bit helpless right now

i also wanted to say i love the vibes here i read a lot of posts and it feels good to see so many people which are like minded and knows about leos content and more and are so engaged)) 

i work at a 9 to 5 job as a cook, and its been two years since i work there

at the last couple of months i worked really hard because of lack of employees at this restaurant, the bosses are really not doing it from passion more like a  Extinguishing fires approach to their business you know what i mean?  

so i kind of know after doing lots of different thing like photography, a tried to go to art school but then realized i love movies more and i had a phase that i really wanted to pursue that and now then i realized i have big passion for music and playing the guitar and creating a band and i have some cool vision and i enjoy perusing that. but then life hits me and all the employees that i worked with almost all gone so i had a feeling i should move faster toward my dreams. and my best guess was doing a digital marketing course so i can accomplish better  Conditions at my  day to day  life job because right now i work physically so much that i am too exhausted when its weekend.

couple of months go by, i moved to live alone, and now i see how its boring for me and i cant see myself doing that marketing stuff, i even got to know someone in that course that had some connecting and wanted me to basically do a business when we sell some scams on the internet of make money online,bitcoin revolution wolf of wall street movie kind of thing . and that didn't feel right so i am not gonna do it, so now i am thinking about changing my course to ethical hacking because that sound more interesting suddenly although at the start my plan was learning something which have guaranteed job, and this one has even more money pay check in it. so i really have this jump here and there mechanism in me i see that. and i am thinking wait i am going to study then work for a year or two to save and what then i can work on my music and do that? and i am worried that then if i need money and i want to go back to work i cant because a lot of things changed and if i am not perusing that career seriously i cant have a real value there, because i need to be aware always of the changes in this neigh and i cant really approach it like that comfy pillow approach to get money in good conditions and something which is pretty interesting and challenging  can you see the way i see it?

i told my boss i want to quit for half time job to be able to study this course and have enough just to pay my bills. but i see it will take a long time since he will find enough workers. 

i am thinking maybe i am just fooling myself and i should quit that job that my boss said he will give me a raise after i asked twice and he said yes and he didn't. i work too hard there and they dont seem to care or even fix stuff in their business that just basic and they are waiting for it to be broken. they dont even help get the whole food done they prefer let their employees  run without rest and literally smoke weed and just chill, i love them and the place but those are real things that are going on and its hard to be positive all the time when you see the approach is still Complacent you know? nothing seems to really change on a deep level and i know its the easiest to say this things on others but its real, you work there and it gets worse and one of the employees that left told me that when i just started there my I laughed and didn't really felt that, it is like that. they simply dont have management skills you know.

  not i am thinking maybe i should just quit, give them a month or two and say goodbye and just find a job that i am able to just pay enough for rent basic survival needs and work on my music, that kind of garyvee approach, and  read books, do consciousness work  , exercise, contemplate, take time off sometimes for a trip and do retreats, later doing psychedelics.  

i really looking for advice, i know i should be strategic but maybe i am doing it backward what do you brothers and sisters think? 

i wish you all a wonder full life if you actually read all that, and even if you dont, for all of you here, leo thank you for your work, and your life purpose course is really a work of genius that really opened my to so much stuff, i changed a lot because of you, you are fascinating human being. 

i highly recommend it, if you though that maybe you should but it, you should you wont regret it!

wish you all the best! 

Edited September 4, 2020 by Avi Khomutovsky

[Average Investor]

For the short term it sounds like a different job would be a good move to help take down the level of stress and energy from your day. This is going to help you position better to make a clearer choice of what you really want to do. 

If you have some skills built up to make money it could be worthwhile to use what you currently have on hand if you just want to make money. Instead of trying another route and taking more time away from getting to what you actually want to do. For example applying for a higher level chef position elsewhere. I don't know all of your skills or background, but that could be a possibility. Or starting your own business in a knowledgeable domain that you have. I can relate to this a lot because I am still learning so much and discovering so much about myself that jumping right into the next thing is just not where I am at. I think just having it in your mind and building a vision for what you want to do is going to be essential. It could be beneficial to explore more fields though too as I don't fully know the extent of stuff that you have tried out. So it could be the best thing to try out these other things and not just going with the only option you know you like. 

I will say though that it would be good to avoid having anyone else tell you what exactly what will be a good life purpose. That or looking for approval of others on the specific life purpose you have chose. 

[susanyzm]

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I chose to quit my quite stable job (which I did not enjoy). In the following three years I was drifting from part-time jobs to full-time jobs until I found myself completely lost. I was in a mental prison. I kept arguing with myself: "What if I didn't quit? But I couldn't put up with the job. What if I started trying things out when I was in college? I would have figured out what I wanted before the stakes were too high. I've already wasted so much time now would it still worth it to start something new?" I tortured myself with these questions every day until I couldn't stand myself anymore. 

I did a few things:

1. I made a wish that I will live a fulfilled life. My mind doesn't believe it. But I made it anyway.

2. I cut a lot of socializing to spend time with myself, watching tons of videos of self-development and spiritual growth. My old beliefs were attacked from so many angles that it set me free day by day. (I'm in China. A lot of metaphysical topics are not allowed to be discussed in depth here.)

3. I started to take mini steps to figure out how to put my talent to use. I even shouted out to the universe: "Use me. I'm open to any possibilities." Sometimes people embark on the self-actualized path when they have nothing to lose. 

You mind may need some serious "blowup" too if you find yourself stuck. The counter-intuitive thing is, often, you wouldn't try a new direction if you are not forced into a corner. So being lost and stuck is not so bad in that perspective.

This episode of Leo also helps a lot. Highly recommended for people who are lost in career. 

 

[Avi Khomutovsky]

On 4.9.2020 at 7:38 AM, Average Investor said:

For the short term it sounds like a different job would be a good move to help take down the level of stress and energy from your day. This is going to help you position better to make a clearer choice of what you really want to do. 

If you have some skills built up to make money it could be worthwhile to use what you currently have on hand if you just want to make money. Instead of trying another route and taking more time away from getting to what you actually want to do. For example applying for a higher level chef position elsewhere. I don't know all of your skills or background, but that could be a possibility. Or starting your own business in a knowledgeable domain that you have. I can relate to this a lot because I am still learning so much and discovering so much about myself that jumping right into the next thing is just not where I am at. I think just having it in your mind and building a vision for what you want to do is going to be essential. It could be beneficial to explore more fields though too as I don't fully know the extent of stuff that you have tried out. So it could be the best thing to try out these other things and not just going with the only option you know you like. 

I will say though that it would be good to avoid having anyone else tell you what exactly what will be a good life purpose. That or looking for approval of others on the specific life purpose you have chose. 

@Average Investor @Average Investor  thank you for replying brother, off course looking for approval is not the right thing to do, the thing is 

leo did not recommended to go threw this make a lot of money and then do your thing approach, and it sound silly to me a little bit to chase money at all, i just want to be able to live simplistically on a part time job and do my thing  you know? read, research, playing music and testing my passions. and i kind of stuck here i see some of the people i worked with go and study on universities, others continue to work sleep routine and one of them 28 hes actually doing photography i pushed him to do it full time since i saw he loved it so much and hes trying . i look at him and i am like damm in his age i dont want to work full time at a job i dont really passionate and is fully my thing,i am 22 soon i forgot to mention, but for me it feels like i can make the most progress if i was just able to get enough time and space to let myself evolve. i almost completely dont use social media and the way i consume media. and i need to decide between digital marketing or other some thing i thought about siber ( ethical hacking)  because one of my friends said that the work and money is guaranteed, the place i study they guarantee to find a work for you later too, but you see then if i do it for couple of years and i wont to quit to purse my real passion and read the books i really want, whats then? i sure cant just quit for a year or two and then come back to work because it seems you have to live it to be updated because the field is always changing, you see? 

i have some photography skills, i tried to do party photoshoot and i hated it and didn't seem to find work on personal photoshoots for artist, i did it mostly for fun i loved to shoot cool portraits, i dont know now its all seems like i perused to much spirituality, i did vipassana retreat once( it was great!), meditate every day and do work out or yoga and now i kind of thinking its taking too much time from me too...that is kind of where i am at, i also decided to move to live alone to have this space for my thoughts to align and now i realized i should take a cheaper place when the year is over, i also re watch leos course to make sure i understand it all, now i am trying to limit myself for one video per day because i tend to do something too much and this time management thing is really the thing i try to master to, to write down before sleep what i will do tomorrow for example.

thank you for your good intentions to help, i wish you a lot of clarity and fulfillment 

[Avi Khomutovsky]

@susanyzm @Average Investor @Average Investor  thank you for replying brother, the thing is that yo need to provide so

On 4.9.2020 at 0:16 PM, susanyzm said:

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I chose to quit my quite stable job (which I did not enjoy). In the following three years I was drifting from part-time jobs to full-time jobs until I found myself completely lost. I was in a mental prison. I kept arguing with myself: "What if I didn't quit? But I couldn't put up with the job. What if I started trying things out when I was in college? I would have figured out what I wanted before the stakes were too high. I've already wasted so much time now would it still worth it to start something new?" I tortured myself with these questions every day until I couldn't stand myself anymore. 

I did a few things:

1. I made a wish that I will live a fulfilled life. My mind doesn't believe it. But I made it anyway.

2. I cut a lot of socializing to spend time with myself, watching tons of videos of self-development and spiritual growth. My old beliefs were attacked from so many angles that it set me free day by day. (I'm in China. A lot of metaphysical topics are not allowed to be discussed in depth here.)

3. I started to take mini steps to figure out how to put my talent to use. I even shouted out to the universe: "Use me. I'm open to any possibilities." Sometimes people embark on the self-actualized path when they have nothing to lose. 

You mind may need some serious "blowup" too if you find yourself stuck. The counter-intuitive thing is, often, you wouldn't try a new direction if you are not forced into a corner. So being lost and stuck is not so bad in that perspective.

This episode of Leo also helps a lot. Highly recommended for people who are lost in career. 

 

@susanyzm you completely right, being ''stuck'' is just natural that is how we can learn whats need to be changed. 

how it is working for you do you live from doing the thing you love? fulfilling life which collects mostly the thing you want to do and be able to afford that? i am thinking maybe i should just work a part time simple job to have enough for basic survival needs and have extra time to do my thing, my research and the things i am passionate about, the good books and knowledge. 

thank you for your advice i really appreciate it and wish you a great life!