Porn

[Raghavm]

Hey guys

Have been trying to not to watch porn and no fap for about 3 months now. Feel pretty. I can see results i want , while taking to girls , being less anxious with them etc. The problem is recently i started to relapse a bit whenever i watch something related to porn (gifs, nsfw content) i get a wet dream at night and my sexual energy just dies. How do i find the confidence to say no everytime my mind tries craves it ? Do i try to distract it with actions or simply make myself understand that porn is an external stimulus and im not actually having sex with a girl. 

[Grant6]

Do you have any daily positive habits in your life? For example, a daily mediation habit will build up willpower within you which will help you get through those temptations that come up. See Leo's video on Self-Control. Also, watch his video called Awareness Alone Is Curative. Next time you have a temptation, you might want to try this. Simply let yourself watch porn, but this is the key here: be aware while you're watching it. Be aware of the feelings you have as you're going to the website, be aware of yourself as you're watching it, and even afterwards how you feel. This way is counterintuitive but it's very insightful. Also, what will help is creating a bigger vision. I encourage you to create an even bigger vision for yourself beyond just stop watching porn, or getting rid of anxiety while talking to girls, etc. Keep these things, but just expand it. Not 5x bigger, not 10x bigger, not 50x bigger, but 100x bigger--or even 1000x bigger. Find your life purpose. What are your values? What gets you excited in the morning? What do you want more of in life? Set goals. Get inspired. Imagine your life where you get so excited about living your day that porn doesn't even cross your mind. That's a pretty cool goal to strive for. And that way you won't even have time for porn because you'll be too busy with your own life. 

[MarcusJ]

Resisting or stopping the watching of Porn will not solve the desire of it EVER! Pushing it away just gives it power over you.   It is just a question of addiction...   For myself Porn in its self is not bad.  It is what it is.  So, just like alcohol, or drugs, or food, you need to manage it.    I had a daily habit... and it was becoming a problem.  Something said to STOP for a while... this gave me perspective, and it can be useful in breaking an addiction.  But as long as Porn is so easily accessible... it will be there.... waiting, especially when you don't have a relationship or a satisfying one.