The Essence Of Acceptance

[ivankiss]

There is an interesting 'paradox' when it comes to accepting or allowing what is. 

I feel like it's worth mentioning.

In a sense; not accepting and not allowing what is; is impossible. Everything is already accepted and allowed right now. All the time.

Trying to allow something that is already occurring is nonsensical. I do not need to allow this cup in front of me to be. It is already allowed to be - just as it is. I know that simply because of the obviousness of its presence.

Still; It's quite easy to become entangled and locked during moments of discomfort.

Something that you may label as 'bad' can indeed happen. But you trying to accept it is not what's going to stop it from happening. That's actually quite silly - if you really think about it.

If it's here - it is already accepted. If it's gone - it does not require your acceptance.

Basically; it's the same when it comes to the idea of 'letting go'. You are not letting go of anything, ever. You are not holding on to anything, either. What's happening is happening - until it's happening. And when it's not happening anymore - it has been let to go. It does not require your permission to stay or leave. It simply comes and goes. Why? Because it is allowed to do so. That's a built-in quality of reality - if you wish.

Instead of trying to allow or accept what is - simply notice how everything is already allowed and accepted; all the time. Already here and now. There's nothing you have to or can do about it.

Resisting what is; is like pulling away from the present moment. Contracting. Moving back. The more you pull away - the heavier your thoughts and emotions get. You can never actually separate yourself from what is... but essentially; that's what 'the illusion' of separation really is. Pulling away. Trying to face the other way. Trying to turn away from what's 'right in front of you'. Which is quite impossible. You cannot actually look away. Cannot separate yourself. You can only create a hella uncomfortable experience of trying to do so.

To look right into the eyes of what is and breathe in the present moment is what total and complete allowance or acceptance is. It's really quite simple. Yet it may require a great amount of courage and a certain level of maturity. 

The easiest way to become fully immersed and present is to find interest in what is. You cannot remain contracted if you are truly interested in and/or excited about what's happening right now. Interest lures you in. 

Love & Light

 

Edited August 30, 2020 by ivankiss

[seeking_brilliance]

@ivankiss  wow this goes hand in hand with what I just published in my book study (journals section)

 

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--It is in the emptiness within the cup that makes it useful --- Lao-tzu--

 

When we look at a cup, we see what is there, we see things about the cup, such as its form and usefulness, but when we add in what is not the cup-- such as its surroundings, and the fact that 'not-cup' MUST exist for there to be 'the-cup'-- so it is with not-knowing.  This gives a more whole experience of the cup, being able to shift our focus/awareness on the-cup AND the importance of not-cup.

 

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The moment anything is perceived, labels and assumptions are immediately applied to it like at the speed of light. (no wonder this is so tricky!) If we can simultaneously pull in this feeling of not-knowing into awareness, we pull the taken for granted perception into a "fresh and present encounter." A keener perception of what is encountered.

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Like Susan's drawing, when you can look at an object while simultaneously lifting the veils that 'knowing/assumptions/labels' create-- you see it for what it really is.

The book goes on to say this new perception is one full of curious wonder. 

Anyway, yes I can see how everything just is, always accepted, its existence is its own acceptance-- and that resistance is inherently futile and unneeded. 

Then again, I got angry and cursing at the water hose this morning because it kept kinking while trying to wash off the sidewalk.

 

[ivankiss]

That's awesome. Thanks for sharing.

9 hours ago, seeking_brilliance said:

Then again, I got angry and cursing at the water hose this morning because it kept kinking while trying to wash off the sidewalk.

Totally acceptable and allowed.

[seeking_brilliance]

41 minutes ago, ivankiss said:

Totally acceptable and allowed.

Whew ?

 

I often find myself looking away. But the reflections are infinite so no, I can't look away. I even know to stop but it happens habitually. Like it's on autopilot by now. I know to face and breathe into is-ness, but I'm still gullible to the doubtful thoughts and once again, not even looking but perhaps running away for the hills. 

But the reflections are infinite and I can't outrun myself. I don't need to, because I can only run (in)to myself. The farthest mountain or cave couldn't hide me because I would see myself in them.  

And this entire phony goose chase is allowed and accepted. Kinda beautiful in a way, like the finest art. 

 

 

Edited September 1, 2020 by seeking_brilliance

[nistake]

Spot on.

That's exactly why I don't really like the idea of letting things go. It can get quite neurotic if you don't know the real meaning of it. You don't need to let go of anything, just accept what is. Observe or even surrender to the present moment and you're golden.

[susanyzm]

When I find myself in resistance, I say to myself: "I don't understand it. But I accept it all." 

Always, there's a gem behind the darkness once I have accept it all. 

Reading these words has given me more assurance in accepting and allowing. It's not up to me to accept or allow. Life is the way life is.