Mantain Enthusiasm, Enjoyment, Contentment?

[Uncover]

Hello everyone!

It started last week when I realized that whatever I will do It will never make me enjoy that enough. I'm almost always in a bad mood always capable of turning angry even the happiest person. Is like a dark circle around me. Only when I do something great I feel contentment but that won't last and will barely alter my mood. I was always the most serious person on the planet which won't laugh at your jokes. I just don't find reasons to be enthusiastic, joyful, optimistic. But when I do, I quickly switch back to my pessimistic state because I know that that thing won't last, and I'm all the time in a sad mood.  So, I'll ask you: Can you find/create an optimistic, full of enthusiasm state of mind that will last?  

Thank you!

[David1]

41 minutes ago, Uncover said:

Hello everyone!

It started last week when I realized that whatever I will do It will never make me enjoy that enough. I'm almost always in a bad mood always capable of turning angry even the happiest person. Is like a dark circle around me. Only when I do something great I feel contentment but that won't last and will barely alter my mood. I was always the most serious person on the planet which won't laugh at your jokes. I just don't find reasons to be enthusiastic, joyful, optimistic. But when I do, I quickly switch back to my pessimistic state because I know that that thing won't last, and I'm all the time in a sad mood.  So, I'll ask you: Can you find/create an optimistic, full of enthusiasm state of mind that will last?  

Thank you!

Try to just act enthusiastic. It will take effort in the beginning, but you may just become real enthusiastic after a while.

Edited August 12, 2016 by David1

[Eelco1981]

@Uncover Nothing lasts forever in this life. Especially enjoyment, pleasures, excitements. They come and go. The only thing that is permanent is your inner being; inner peace you can find through enlightenment, which is discussed to a great extent on this forum. But you might not be ready for the enlightenment path. Take care of the practical things first. So try to look in the past and do some inner exploration: what are the things that make you happy? What events and activities make you happy, or even get you in a state of flow? Try to work towards those activities every day. Use your strengths. What are you good at.

If you get involved in your favorite activities you will become more happy and be a much more sympathetic person towards others. But remember, that state of happiness and flow will never last. It comes and goes. Accept that.

(If you think YOU just ARE a pessimistic person and you just can't do any of the above, you are just getting in your own way and you get stuck in the past)

[David1]

On 12-8-2016 at 2:44 PM, Uncover said:

Hello everyone!

It started last week when I realized that whatever I will do It will never make me enjoy that enough. I'm almost always in a bad mood always capable of turning angry even the happiest person. Is like a dark circle around me. Only when I do something great I feel contentment but that won't last and will barely alter my mood. I was always the most serious person on the planet which won't laugh at your jokes. I just don't find reasons to be enthusiastic, joyful, optimistic. But when I do, I quickly switch back to my pessimistic state because I know that that thing won't last, and I'm all the time in a sad mood.  So, I'll ask you: Can you find/create an optimistic, full of enthusiasm state of mind that will last?  

Thank you!

Laughter yoga!!

 

[MIARIVEL]

@Uncover I used to be like you. I hated the world and everyone in it at one stage and it wasn't until I found myself alone with no friends that I became severely depressed and it took me a while to work out why I hated life and everyone. 

I hated that everyone's else life seemed so perfect and together, I hated that other people were more happier than me, I always told myself I wasn't smart enough to do what I really want to do, I won't ever be as better as the rest and I will be laughed at or I will be a big failure. This all contributed to my mood and the way I looked at life. I had to face a lot of things I didn't want to face or I didn't think I was ready to face. I kept failing at school and I knew I hated that feeling of not being good enough so I had to make some major changes otherwise I was forever going to be stuck in this rut. 

I wanted what other people had and I wanted to be as happy and successful as them but in order for that to ever have a chance of happening, I needed to make the decision to not be a miserable victim any more. I got busy immersing myself into personal development, listening to other people like Leo who changed the way I thought about myself and life (sort of a kick in the butt to wake up to myself) before it was too late. 

Things started to slowly change and I started to see results, it was a tough journey and still one that I am on but practising mindfullness, and being in the present served me well. Don't think about the past or even 5 minutes from now, just be in the right here, right now... who are you? who do you choose to be, react and what is your perception of the way you want to see things right now? try and interpret things in a positive light. If you continue to learn to challenge your mind and get our of your comfort zone you will soon start to break these negative habits. 

[philosogi]

@Uncover It seems you had a profound realization last week. I think it's an important stage to get through. Do not fall into the trap of thinking that the thought "whatever I will do It will never make me enjoy that enough," is the end of your personal inquiry. Keep questioning. Question the assumptions that went into this, and have an open mind; don't judge yourself for whatever the answer comes up. If you're jealous, accept the part of yourself that is jealous. That doesn't have to define you. Keep doing this until you've found all the assumptions.

If YOU believe you "can you find/create an optimistic, full of enthusiasm state of mind that will last," then - and only then - will you find it worth it to embark on the journey to find it. You can't seek external validation for this one, but external support and encouragement is useful. (That's one reason I find Leo's videos so useful. When I'm feeling discouraged, I watch a title of his that seems particularly relevant to what I'm feeling discouraged about, and his logic and ways of thinking shows me the trap that I've put myself in.)

And as Leo says for 45 minutes, "Be Fucking Patient! - How To Deal With Lack Of Results"  

Edited August 22, 2016 by philosogi
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