How do I stop limiting myself?

[trenton]

In my reading I came across some interesting points.  This includes reality is as it is whether we accept it or not.  The second point is the paradox of selfish love.  If we try to make someone love us, it backfires because we don't give them the freedom to hate us.  Through allowing the freedom to hate, it is more likely to cause someone to love you.

When ever I limit myself by attempting to be only one side whether it is love or hate, good or bad, or many other things, I plant the seed of suffering in myself.  Eventually I am torn from the part I have chosen because my identification came with doubt, lies, and an inevitable death of what I chose.

This demonstrates a limitation of mind and thought because any thought limits me and leads to death.  I think I am very limited by the identity of the mind.  I am currently observing the happy feeling that arises as I identify with the mind.  This happy feeling is often present even when I beat myself up to cause myself suffering.  This was the inner laughter and devil's advocate that lead me to spirituality because of the happiness I get from hurting myself.  If I cling to suffering out of selfishness, this limit does not allow me to be anything else, and this must be maintained through lies. 

For brief moments I start to understand what is being said, but my mind then muddies itself to confuse me and say I don't know.  I would say this has nothing to do with what is true, but my mind attaches to this idea of true in order to make itself even more stubborn.  For similar reasons my mind attaches to spirituality in order to keep me identified with the movements of the mind.

I am going to keep watching this identity.  I think allowing myself to limit myself may work in the same counter intuitive way as love.  it hurts to be as self aware as I am now, but it hurts far more to not be this award of my mind.  What would you do to stop limiting yourself?

[zeroISinfinity]

Meditate. 

(well Jed's influence sorry for short answer) 

Edited August 25, 2020 by zeroISinfinity

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8 hours ago, trenton said:

This includes reality is as it is whether we accept it or not.

Who establishes or determines this rule that reality is as it is?

8 hours ago, trenton said:

I would say this has nothing to do with what is true, but my mind attaches to this idea of true in order to make itself even more stubborn.

So do you think reality is "as it is" whether you accept it or not, but your mind is not true? Is reality truer than your mind?

8 hours ago, trenton said:

What would you do to stop limiting yourself?

Stop thinking that reality is separate from you. This idea that reality is as it is and there's nothing to do other than accept it comes from a misunderstanding of what reality is. There is no difference between you and reality.

[Nahm]

9 hours ago, trenton said:

This includes reality is as it is whether we accept it or not...  What would you do to stop limiting yourself?

@trenton

If reality is as it is wether accepted or not, then it is unconditional regardless of conditions apparently held or believed. If reality is unconditional... selfishness, hate, cause, limit, suffering, choice, death, identity, the mind, clinging, spirituality, itself, attachment, stubborn, and movements are conditions, which must therefore not actually be real, or, reality.