Deep Loneliness (inner) & Lots of Physical Isolation (external)

[Matt23]

I've felt i've never really been able to belong to a group or form long-term relationships.  Like the few relationships I have now are mostly just for having them as needs, like there's not too much connection there.

I feel unable to be with others.  To feel connected.  To feel like I've ever really belonged.  

I feel so stressed as well, and that I just am so alone lots (physically) and that this is true in terms of feeling alone as well.

How do you guys deal with these issues?

Cheers

[Nahm]

@Matt23

The relationships you do have, you have because you want them. Believing you need them, there is no room for appreciation, as they are reduced experientially to a means to an end - for you. Experientially, everyone is serving your needs. You have much to offer, consider sharing rather than getting. 

Being alone is absolutely problem free. If being alone seems to be a problem, notice the perspective which doesn’t feel good, vs the actuality. Notice how that perspective traces back to the belief you need. That is what is out of alignment. Not being alone. 

“Deal with the issue”, by acknowledging you’re saying it’s an issue, and scrutinizing why you’re saying that. Some beliefs about yourself that don’t resonate with who you really are will come to the surface. Let them go rather than continuing to believe them. 

Look to share your interests with people who share the same interests, because you want to.