Should i cut contact with her

[WaveInTheOcean]

1 minute ago, Seed said:

So men don’t want to have more enjoyable sex with someone they trust?

They’d rather have fast food sex ? 

I think some of you may be missing the bigger picture. 

yes if he’s just looking for a hole to put his dick inside then I guess your method works. But let’s at least see what he wants first before making presumptions based on our own experiences as a desperately horny teen.   Young people now, are far more aware than they ever been. And (of course) evolving .... as far as I can see (I maybe wrong) but he just wants to know if she’s Interested in him... not a 123 method for fast food sex. Maybe he wants a relationship with her ? We don’t know yet as we haven’t asked. 

True enough. As a man I can say that having sex with a woman you have an at least somewhat deep connection with is much more satisfying than having sex with someone you barely know. But hey, we are all different. Perhaps I just have a lot of feminine energy compared to e.g. Leo, who -- despite all his spiritual development into Love -- still seems to be pretty masculine in his approach to women.

[Leo Gura]

12 minutes ago, Seed said:

So men don’t want to have more enjoyable sex with someone they trust?

They’d rather have fast food sex ?

No, you're strawmanning the guy's prerogative.

Again, you're looking at this from a self-biased perspective.

You are framing it from the woman's agenda.

How fast you have sex doesn't have to do with how good it is. You can wait an month and have terrible sex.

The faster you have sex, the sooner you can weed out sexual incompatibility and the faster you can get to deep sex.

The first time having sex will never be that deep or great, no matter how long you wait. Because it will be somewhat foreign and awkward.

[Gesundheit]

3 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:

Crimes and other illegal stuff is enough not to want to do so. If like me, you had several horrible experiences which included having to run and scream for help during the middle of the night to escape a man who wouldn't take no for an answer, you would certainly get why you'd make sure not to put yourself in unnecessary danger.

Fair enough, and I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. I excluded this initially because I believe crime is not gender-specific and so it could happen to guys as well, although obviously in a less percentage.

I should probably stop here.

[Gesundheit]

15 minutes ago, WaveInTheOcean said:

human beings wanting intimacy is because of survival:-)

I am ignorant, I thought we'd established that yesterday. Move on.

[Seed]

7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

No, you're strawmanning the guy's prerogative.

Again, you're looking at this from a self-biased perspective.

You are framing it from the woman's agenda.

How fast you have sex doesn't have to do with how good it is. You can wait an month and have terrible sex.

The faster you have sex, the sooner you can weed out sexual incompatibility and the faster you can get to deep sex.

The first time having sex will never be that deep or great, no matter how long you wait. Because it will be somewhat foreign and awkward.

But we don’t know if he’s ALL masculine, the same as I am not All feminine. So all I am suggesting is him thinking about what’s best for himself as an individual based his on his own balance of feminine and masculine energy ? Rather than project our own thoughts onto him and tell him what to do...: I’m just suggesting that he uses his own wisdom and intuition that’s all. We’ve never met him or her. This is all just a very basic outline of a situation... so any advise is going to be completely subjective anyway. 

[Leo Gura]

@Etherial Cat Dating and relationships are pure survival. Let's not pretend otherwise.

[Gesundheit]

10 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:

Hell no! I beg to at least partly disagree on that.

There is both an egoistical and transcendental aspect to relationships. The more conscious you get, the least egoistical parts have a grip on it. Most relationships are as dysfunctional as its participants, hence the bias towards survival based relationship.

I find that relationships are a very effective path towards selflessness, but of course it takes two talented people willing to self-actualize and chose real Love vs ego love.  

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[remember]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

It is your prerogative to wait as long as you want.

It is the guy's prerogative to go fast.

It's purely a difference in survival agenda.

Guy gains nothing by waiting. Girl can gain by waiting.

Since I was giving advice to a guy, the advice is to go fast.

yeah obviously no one gains by not waiting. except that guys seem to like to get lost as fast as possible and that’s exactly why girls in a lot of cases if going for sustainability instead for getting dumped fast are usually on the winning side by dumping the guys who are not willing to invest emotions nor responsibility. that going fast narrative is exactly why there are more single mothers than children growing up in families - i‘d wish women would shit prove their relationships even more in sense of how interested guys are really.

you basically can’t talk for relationship interested guys you might even mislead them.

it basically would rob especially younger guys of their first innocent experiences - you don’t seem to understand bonding rituals at all, or how trust is built. without that stuff the first sex will also not be special for a couple. porn industry destroyed all of that deeper understanding.

even having these witch hunter mentalities around in this thread who try to imply falsehood and scheming on the women’s side because they cock manipulate themselves through life.

Edited August 1, 2020 by remember

[Gesundheit]

1 hour ago, remember said:

yeah obviously no one gains by not waiting. except that guys seem to like to get lost as fast as possible and that’s exactly why girls in a lot of cases if going for sustainability instead for getting dumped fast are usually on the winning side by dumping the guys who are not willing to invest emotions nor responsibility.

It's not a competition for who dumps first. That would be a shitty practice. You're talking as if having sex is only a pleasure for men and a great cause of women's suffering. The reality is that it's a win-win for both, and any mental suffering is on the sufferers themselves, not on their partners. There is no good way to break up. If the woman is not willing to accept this reality, then she will be better off rejecting everyone in the first place instead of withholding sex. That would be a more mature and responsible place to operate from. Instead of attempting to control the relationship with such abusive behaviours.

Think about it this way: you get to know whether there is a future with this guy or not early on, instead of lying to yourself by making him wait and then eventually dump you.

Edited August 1, 2020 by Gesundheit

[remember]

12 minutes ago, Gesundheit said:

It's not a competition for who dumps first. That would be a shitty practice. You're talking as if having sex is only a pleasure for men and a great cause of women's suffering. The reality is that it's a win-win for both, and any mental suffering is on the sufferers themselves, not on their partners. There is no good way to break up. If the woman is not willing to accept this reality, then she will be better off rejecting everyone in the first place instead of withholding sex. That would be a more mature and responsible place to operate from. Instead of attempting to control the relationship with such abusive behaviours.

Think about it this way: you get to know whether there is a future with this guy or not early on, instead of lying to yourself by making him wait and then eventually dump you.

are you stu*** or are you not reading properly? i have no interest in talking to you - stop commenting to my posts. you can’t speak for women’s perspective and you obviously miss that you are not really hitting the spot with women.

Edited August 1, 2020 by remember

[Gesundheit]

5 minutes ago, remember said:

are you stu*** or are you not reading properly? i have no interest in talking to you - stop commenting to my posts. you can’t speak for women’s perspective and you obviously miss that you are not really hitting the spot with women.

I choose stu***. lol

Too bad. I thought the water was running like crazy. lol

Edited August 1, 2020 by Gesundheit

[remember]

18 minutes ago, Gesundheit said:

I choose stu***. lol

Too bad. I thought the water was running like crazy. lol

well yeah def not because there is something sharp about „its not a competition for who dumps first“. if you want to have a conversation about the weather: no, it’s not yet raining heavily - but i guess you‘d need to open another thread for weather updates and talking about if you closed your window or not.

[Gesundheit]

@remember and we're back to salad ?

[remember]

28 minutes ago, Gesundheit said:

@remember and we're back to salad ?

you know there has been a practice once to not only wash hands before dinner but also the ears.

[Gesundheit]

@remember okay that was enough, move it along 

[WaveInTheOcean]

survival is God's most genius tool for self-exploration, gotta say it

[Seed]

1 hour ago, WaveInTheOcean said:

survival is God's most genius tool for self-exploration, gotta say it

Gotta love ? a paradox 

Edited August 1, 2020 by Seed

[WaveInTheOcean]

Watch and learn women:

Watch and learn @Leo Gura:

 

Edited August 1, 2020 by WaveInTheOcean

[Kiko]

Okay quick update:
 

The bitch flaked as i expected so i cut her lose...

[Username]

"The bitch flaked as i expected so i cut her lose..." - she made a smart decision