Is there a sequence to self actualization

[StarStruck]

Self help can be divided in: the money part, personal relationships part and spirituality part

In self help they say one should focus on one part of your life, ace that part of your life and then move on. 

What are your guys opinion about that?

Do you guys think certain parts of your life should have a priority?

   

[JosephKnecht]

Look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The needs on higher levels depend on achieving the lower level needs first.

Look at spiral dynamics. To achieve the higher levels you need to go through the lower levels first. 

When you are building a pyramid, you must build it on the right foundation. Otherwise, when you get to the top, if your foundation is faulty, your life would collapse on itself.  

[Artsu]

For me, actualisation was an overhaul. My life seemingly did collapse, because i was building a new foundation. First i was analysing myself through personality types and finding a partial life purpose through that, but events in life caused the process folowing that to be extremely difficult. My relationships fell apart, i dropped out of university (temporarily), and was filled with regret over my past. I basically went crazy, until it reached maximum pressure and i was in the psych ward.

Afterwards it was like i had a new life. I was a new person, and lamented the loss of my old personality.

Since then i have been going through the self transcendent sequence. Self, humanity, earth, cosmos, and beyond into mystical/mysterious territory.

When i actualised i didnt have money under control, and i still don't. I had to have a life overhaul before i could get back to forming relationships.

Actualisation can be traumatic, and can demand full attention. Evaluate and change your life from within, then let the rest follow.

[Display_Name]

You do whatever you "need" right now most, what excites you most, and what makes the most strategic sense

Ultimately enlightenment is 100000x better than everything else. It's not even on the same scale. It's META, in the sense it's not just another pursuit, but the pursuit above all pursuits, that enriches all other pursuits and puts them into correct perspective.

But if you haven't sorted out stable finances, and you're a closeted incel trying to bypass your social anxiety, it's not gonna work for long. So fix those issues directly and exhaust those drives if you have them.

 

edit: added a couple zeros

 

Edited July 28, 2020 by Display_Name

[Setzer901]

I think you should do what is most important to you at the moment. I learned this the hard way by trying to focus too much on spirituality before getting my material needs met. 

As @JosephKnecht said, take look at Maslow's hierarchy and Spiral dynamics. Try to sort out your relationships, finance, career. You don't stay young for very long and these things are best sorted the younger you are. Exhausting and fulfilling these drives will naturally allow you to go towards the spiritual path more fully and completely.

Does that mean you don't do spirituality at all? Absolutely not! I would say use stuff like meditation, therapy, yoga, visualizations to put you in the right state of mind to accomplish your goals. Also to keep you sane(and dare I say joyful) while life throws shit at you. I'd say keep the enlightenment bit and hardcore monk mode for much later - when your mind doesn't distract you with women and money and fame as you have already (hopefully) satisfied those needs.