How much do looks matter

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, ColeMC01 said:

@Leo Gura What do you think about social circle game? Meaning if you already know people, to tell a friend you have that " i find x friends of yours cute" and then she can notify her that x guy is interested and if she also is then you can start talking/dating? I am not saying to make friends for this purpose but rather asking the ones you already have for this. I personally feel this is more natural and convince than cold approaching on the street because i do not like night clubs that much and its hard to find decent girls on bars ( mostly older people) where i live.

Social circle is great if you are an extrovert and love to do all that social stuff.

[bazera]

@Leo Gura Isn't there a label for a person who isn't entirely introvert nor extrovert? 

I am kinda in the middle, more towards introversion, but I also like being social and having fun with friends and that kind of stuff.

I value solitude very much. I get my batteries charged when I am alone. I guess that's the definition of an introvert. But there is also a social part in me, who likes to do all the social stuff.

I guess I have to integrate the two.

Are you like that too? Or are you in the far end towards introversion on the spectrum?

Edited July 27, 2020 by bazera

[soos_mite_ah]

@bazera A lot of people call that being an ambivert. It means that you're cool with doing both

If you want to get technical with the notion that get you get your energy when you're alone while still liking social stuff, then you're just an outgoing introvert. It's possible to be an outgoing introvert or reserved extrovert. Outgoing and reserved has to do with the way you react in a social setting while introvert and extrovert refers to your energy source. You can get your energy externally and be an extrovert while having that extroversion be expressed in a reserved way where you're just more quiet in a social setting (and vice versa).  That's at least what I got from reading about it. 

[Chumbimba]

Looks don't matter. I am ugly and I have had my fair share of sexual experiences lol 

[Peo]

3 hours ago, bazera said:

Isn't there a label for a person who isn't entirely introvert nor extrovert? 

Hybrids maybe

[Osaid]

4 hours ago, bazera said:

Isn't there a label for a person who isn't entirely introvert nor extrovert? 

Ambivert

[Leo Gura]

4 hours ago, bazera said:

Isn't there a label for a person who isn't entirely introvert nor extrovert

As always, it's not a binary, it's a spectrum. People fall all across the spectrum. When I say introvert or extrovert it's shorthand for the two extremes of the spectrum which may not apply to you. If you're towards the middle you'll have to blend the advice from both extremes.

[DreamScape]

@bazera its called an ambivert 

[Artsu]

Obligatory post stating that introversion and extroversion is about internal/subjective versus external/objective cognition, not social preferences.

It only relates to socialising because extroverted feeling is very social. So only some extroverts are social. An introvert can be more social than an extrovert.

[Farnaby]

@Hello from Russia Yes, I get that. I have nothing against pick up and as a shy person, I would probably benefit from talking more to people. 

What I'm saying is I've never needed to cold approach women to have girlfriends and have sex. Of course, I could have possibly have had sex with more women if I did, but I don't have a huge need for that. I prefer building a more intimate connection rather than having one night stands. 

Just randomly approaching a woman I don't know at all on the street feels kind of cringy and I've talked with women about this and they usually feel some fear when a stranger approaches them. Not saying it doesn't work, because I know it does, especially if you're confident, funny, etc., just saying that many girls don't like to be approached this way. 

 

[electroBeam]

On 27/07/2020 at 5:33 PM, Leo Gura said:

You will sleep with far less than 2%.

0.001% is more realistic for a newbie.

so if you approach 100, 000 women, you're doing great if you sleep with 1 of them?

Edited July 28, 2020 by electroBeam

[Hello from Russia]

59 minutes ago, Farnaby said:

@Hello from Russia Yes, I get that. I have nothing against pick up and as a shy person, I would probably benefit from talking more to people. 

What I'm saying is I've never needed to cold approach women to have girlfriends and have sex. Of course, I could have possibly have had sex with more women if I did, but I don't have a huge need for that. I prefer building a more intimate connection rather than having one night stands. 

Just randomly approaching a woman I don't know at all on the street feels kind of cringy and I've talked with women about this and they usually feel some fear when a stranger approaches them. Not saying it doesn't work, because I know it does, especially if you're confident, funny, etc., just saying that many girls don't like to be approached this way. 

 

Yeah, I understand you.

You can pick locations, though. It doesn't have to be ANY street. You can camp yoga studios/vegan cuisine classes/health-conscious restaurants/organic markets for example. Some very good chicks can be found there

Edited July 28, 2020 by Hello from Russia

[mandyjw]

It helps to appreciate just how subjective looks are anyway. The reason we think it's not subjective is because of memories of peers, Hollywood, magazines, models and popular culture. Even societies favorite "ideal" look changes every decade. It's all built on a foundation of nothing. Attraction is an an incredibly personal, unique, living, breathing artistic thing when it's allowed to be on its own without all kinds of colored perceptions and standards assigning value to self and other in that way. It goes beyond the visual and physical. Beauty can't be quantified. 

That said, even our most shallow favorite traits we find yourself attracted to are strangely quirky. Most people you talk to have weird, quirky specific things that they are attracted to. I think that women are more free to act on the unique things they are attracted to because they are less afraid of being judged by others for picking a partner based on those criteria instead of what they think they should find hot. Then even your own favorite traits to have in a partner can be forgotten if someone with the right energy walks into your life.

Edited July 28, 2020 by mandyjw

[Gesundheit]

Looks matter A LOT. If you're to create a fair competition, 10s and 9s will get most of the voices.

Still, regardless, you should be fine if you took good care of yourself, i.e. hygiene, clothing, teeth, breath, body language, sweet talking, etc... Even if you're a 2. You can still get laid regardless. Just take well care of yourself.

[Gesundheit]

Being muscular does not really count though. In fact, a lot of women find highly muscular bodies unappealing. Moderate muscle is optimal.

Of course, granted that you should take care of your game and confidence etc..

Edited July 28, 2020 by Gesundheit

[dinone]

Does penis size matter? Does height matter? Does big beard matter? Go investigate and see. Maybe none of that matters.

[Gesundheit]

42 minutes ago, dinone said:

Does penis size matter?

How you use it matters much more.

42 minutes ago, dinone said:

Does height matter?

Definitely.

42 minutes ago, dinone said:

Does big beard matter?

It depends on the local trends.

[dinone]

1 hour ago, Gesundheit said:

It depends on the local trends.

like everything above.

[Kalki Avatar]

If you are a 10 on looks but a 5 in general. Go to Asia. They will experience you as a 10. 

In general, dating tourists babes is far easier. None of you expect anything because you both live in total different cultures. Thats like a big excuse for being you and different. Also, they dont have social pressure. Now that they are out of their country they can get laid far faster with you since they now dont have social consequences. 

Go to a Resort in your country. If you are american, date a russian or german girl. They are fast, open minded and hot af. 

Combine that, with picking up a girl that was drinking at the disco of that Resort at 2 or 3am. Thats like free sex. 

[Recursoinominado]

10 hours ago, dinone said:

Does penis size matter? 

Women secretly love big dicks, they love to brag to their friends that their man has a big dick. I have a lot of girl friends and spent a lot of time with them, often being the only heterosexual male of the group, they felt at ease talking their minds and, man, women talk a LOT about big dicks and sex with themselves, more then men talk about it, in my experience.