What Are Some Personal Development Principles That I Can Apply To Improve My Personality/social Skills?

[7thLetter]

Is it that I should do some self-acceptance work and let go of the need to improve my personality? Or is it all outer work that has to happen? I've been doing pickup for at least a year now, it definitely has helped me with my social skills and personality but I feel like I'm more of a sociopath now. I never care too much about people at work, it's hard to build some sort of friendship/relationship with me, etc. So I'm trying to lay off of the pickup stuff for now. But now that I'm slowly moving away from pickup, it sort of seems like I'm a bit more shy than I was when I was doing pickup. There's a few girls at work that I want to talk to but it's pretty difficult for me. Which is the main reason I'm asking this question. I don't want to have to go back to approaching random girls on the streets in the daytime just to gain some temporary confidence.

What kind of inner or outer work can I do in this situation? Responsible pickup?

Edited August 1, 2016 by 7thLetter

[Christian]

I'm not an expert on this topic, but I can share some ideas with you that might help: 

To learn social skills and potentially Master them, I think you will need:

Accurate high quality information into the principles of social skills. 

To Take lots of action and Explore how the principles connect in Real life and to improve your skills. 

 Being patient and taking into accoount that the BIG results come later on in your pursuit and that the beginning is the most difficult part.

Meditation - daily 

A quality life coach that can help you realize your desire.

A POWERFUL vision that is clear and specific (most important)

Good luck  

[FindingPeace]

On 01/08/2016 at 8:08 PM, 7thLetter said:

What kind of inner or outer work can I do in this situation?

What's 'wrong' with your personality that you think needs changing?

You've already identified that you are shy and lack confidence. So looking into the roots of this would be the place to start. Hint: underconfidence and shyness in social contexts often stems from caring to much what other people think of you. Leo has a great video on tackling this. But I think this is the place to start.