Posted July 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, Amit said: Even then grow up, that's materialistic paradigm in the root of this analogy. The materialist paradigm is in the root of growing up. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 19 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: You have no objective evidence or data for any of these claims except your personal experience which is prone to bias and most likely is actually biased. And what else matters when it comes to picking a partner for ME? When it's your partner we might need to be objective about it.. But I'm speaking about the perfect traits that " I "want in my partner. Ofcourse I would like her to fit my biased interests.. Why not? Should I want her to fit the criteria of Donald trump lol? Edited July 18, 2020 by Someone here my mind is gone to a better place. I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) Attraction isn't a choice but we seem to have the experience of having choice. For example if you went to a library to pick out a book to read for fun, it seems like you are making a choice. However your past conditioning, past interests, recent events, the design of the book covers, the available selection and the design, colors of the book covers and it's position on the shelf all factor in to your "choice". Really you didn't make a choice at all, even though it seems you did. The cars I think are nice, the breed of dog I have, the colors I like the wear are all based on a lot of past conditioning and chance events and what I prefer changes over time. I used to absolutely detest country music, but after years of hours and hours of having to listen to it on long bus rides in high school I started to like a handful of songs and then listened to it by choice for a year of my life. It was the most shocking thing to me that I could actually come around to liking a type of music I had absolutely hated. I think sometimes attraction and reaction is all about wanting to embody something. Attraction is just when there's no resistance to it so it feels expansive. And usually we aren't conscious of what it is we want to embody/integrate about it or why, we just feel the attraction. Any reasons we try to come up with it are shallow and shortsighted, whether it's coming up with reasons for why we like the color blue or why we like a person. Edited July 18, 2020 by mandyjw My Youtube Channel- Light on Earth “We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the Secret sits in the middle and knows.”― Robert Frost Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 @Someone here No. All I'm saying is that having unexamined biases will most likely lead to regrets. Of course, it's your life after all. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 I want the partner that I didnt know that I wanted. Dont look at me! Look inside! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 14 hours ago, Roy said: If one is enlightened and has reached such a state of maturity why would they bother or be temped to go after shallow/vain pretty girls? God’s exploration 14 hours ago, Roy said: I know there are "no rules" and everyone can do what they want, but it's still kind of in-congruent and dishonest. No, it really isn’t Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 36 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: @Someone here No. All I'm saying is that having unexamined biases will most likely lead to regrets. Of course, it's your life after all. It's not unexamined lol. I'm currently dating that blonde girl and she played a huge role in shaping my views on dating lol.. my mind is gone to a better place. I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 Meh, blondes are so overrated. You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 @Someone here good luck! “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 13 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: Meh, blondes are so overrated. Lies. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 32 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: Meh, blondes are so overrated. Honesty If you are not dating blondes you are wasting your time. Just like : if you don't take psychedelics for consciousness work..you are wasting your time. my mind is gone to a better place. I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Someone here said: Honesty If you are not dating blondes you are wasting your time. Lol I don't even click on blonde porn any more. Bad aesthetics. You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Someone here said: Honesty If you are not dating blondes you are wasting your time. Just like : if you don't take psychedelics for consciousness work..you are wasting your time. Every girls are special?Hahaha Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: Lol I don't even click on blonde porn any more. Bad aesthetics. Hahahahaa!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Leo Gura said: Lol I don't even click on blonde porn any more. Bad aesthetics. Leo stop watching porn already it's 2020 buddy lol .. Who even watches porn anymore? No judgment lol jk. But tbh it's not so high consciousness of a habit. my mind is gone to a better place. I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: Lol I don't even click on blonde porn any more. Bad aesthetics. After this comment, I love you even more..... "All that we know is limited, something we don't - is infinite" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Display_Name said: God’s exploration Nice rationalization. Sneaky ego hehe! 1 hour ago, Display_Name said: No, it really isn’t Yes, it really is. The women Leo was describing in the context he was were bombshells, "crazy hot", top 5% girls. Which common sense tells us statistically aren't going to be extremely developed spiritually or maturity wise. It's incredibly rare to find such people anyways (or be the quality person to be able to pursue them and land them). The people he was taking about wouldn't be tempted to bother pursuing such things as "enlightenment" if their life and survival has been made so convenient to them because of their looks/attractiveness. That's obvious. Therefore as that an advanced "spiritual" person you'd know having sex and messing around is basically "toying" with them, knowing full fucking well you aren't compatible for a long term relationship, and are just wasting everyone's time indulging shallow urges. That isn't to say it's an "absolute" wrong to have casual sex with good looking people, like I'm sure people will rebut. Life is a playground and there are no rules. It's just that the way "enlightenment" is marketed and the way enlightened people carry themselves (and the image they have of themselves whether they're conscious of their maintenance of it or not) within those kinds of communities is to be mature and above such childish flesh chasing. Of course they still have sex and enjoy themselves, but it's usually much more selective and with someone on the same "level" as them let's say. They demonize egoic pleasure seeking within their teachings, saying it doesn't lead to happiness. So that's why I said it's incongruous to be "enlightened" and consider oneself spiritually developed, but simotaneously be chasing "crazy hot girls". See I actually don't personally give a shit what people do or if they're hypocrites or not. Not worried about it, I just wanted to point the inconsistency for other people that might be confused about the message being sent. Instead of giving an elaboration that was honest about the context @Leo Gura responded with a smart ass comment, "So should we have sex with trolls?" So either this indicates he's lying/deluded (I don't think so, but nobody can really know anything about it), about his maturity/"enlightenment" level and rationalizes chasing what is preached about being "egoic pleasures". Or he's sending another hidden message that it doesn't really matter what you do in the end, but not being honest or explicit about this in his language. Either way we have to re-examine the marketing of what an "enlightened" person is because what he's implying takes away from the common understanding of it. Of course this could just be my flawed perception of it and obviously I think I'm right because I'm a selfish little devil who thinks that taking advantage of people is wrong, oh wait.......... Edited July 18, 2020 by Roy hrhrhtewgfegege Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Someone here said: Who even watches porn anymore? 99% of males, and a less percentage of females. And a lot of them demonize porn and tell others to quit. Only if they could lead by example the whole industry would have collapsed ages ago lol. At least some people are being honest about it. There's no shame in living life. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) What kind of behavior in a guy turns me off 1 Extreme Neediness 2 Emotional immaturity 3 Argumentative 4 Arrogance and stubbornness and egotistical 5 Controlling 6 Lack of responsibility and accountability Edited July 18, 2020 by Preety_India INFJ-T,ptsd,BPD, autism, anger issues Cleared out ignore list today. .. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 8 minutes ago, Someone here said: Who even watches porn anymore? He who is a connoiseur of God's exquisite handiwork. You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
