Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, Someone here said: Yes I agree and that's also what I want. But the difference is what's the priority for you? It seems like your priority in a guy is his personality and then comes his looks.. But ofcourse you'd like him to have them both. My priority in a girl is her blonde (I mean her looks lol) and then comes her personality.. But ofcourse I'd like her to have them both. You get how this works? The problem is that you have set it like a priority system. To me it's not about priority. You're getting me wrong. I want the complete package. If you want the complete package too, then we're both in the same boat. Only difference is that you have set priorities but in the end we both want the same things. But there's one big difference between you and me. If you're ready to compromise on personality, then I am not in the same boat as you. Because I'm not ready to compromise on that.. INFJ-T,ptsd,BPD, autism, anger issues Cleared out ignore list today. .. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Lol WTF? What lol? Do you disagree? I only date blonde girls and I can tell you they are as equally beautiful as a personality as their looks. 4 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Women pick personality over looks because they know what will work in the long run. If you have marriage on your list, then you should consider personality as a priority. Why? You wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with an ugly person.. At least you won't go cheating if your spouse is attractive enough to keep you locked. If I marry Scarlett Johansson I won't even leave the house or let her leave it lol jk. ?? 8 minutes ago, Preety_India said: @Someone here "When you get very serious about truth you accept your life situation exactly as it is. So much so that you aren't childishly sitting around wishing it were otherwise.If you were confined to a wheelchair you would just accept it as how reality is. Just as you now just accept that you are not a bird who can fly." -Leo Gura. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 11 minutes ago, Amit said: My perfect woman must be at least virgin, next factor is color of her skin, shape of her body, symmetry of face, and how often she takes a bath Hell yeah lol. 18 minutes ago, Preety_India said: @Someone here The problem is that you have set it like a priority system. To me it's not about priority. You're getting me wrong. I want the complete package. If you want the complete package too, then we're both in the same boat. Only difference is that you have set priorities but in the end we both want the same things. But there's one big difference between you and me. If you're ready to compromise on personality, then I am not in the same boat as you. Because I'm not ready to compromise on that.. Yes which is exactly my point. There is difference.. Your criteria is different from mine is different from someone else.. You are not ready to compromise on personality and I'm not ready to compromise on blonde lol... "When you get very serious about truth you accept your life situation exactly as it is. So much so that you aren't childishly sitting around wishing it were otherwise.If you were confined to a wheelchair you would just accept it as how reality is. Just as you now just accept that you are not a bird who can fly." -Leo Gura. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 @Someone here well to each his own.. INFJ-T,ptsd,BPD, autism, anger issues Cleared out ignore list today. .. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 24 minutes ago, Someone here said: What lol? Do you disagree? I only date blonde girls and I can tell you they are as equally beautiful as a personality as their looks. That's clearly a bias on your part. I read another comment for you: 3 hours ago, Someone here said: Astrology is delusion. Pseudoscience. Wouldn't you say that's akin to what you're saying here? 24 minutes ago, Someone here said: Why? You wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with an ugly person.. Looks are important, of course. I want a beautiful partner, like everyone else. But nobody's ugly cuz it's all relative. 24 minutes ago, Someone here said: At least you won't go cheating if your spouse is attractive enough to keep you locked. If I marry Scarlett Johansson I won't even leave the house or let her leave it lol jk. ?? Imagine eating your favourite food 3 times every single fucking day for the rest of your fucking life. That's what sex feels like when you have enough of it. You want the company, not the sex. You want a friend, not the restaurant or the plate. Or perhaps don't imagine that, but actually do it. Experience what it's like to have the same food on every meal. Edited July 18, 2020 by Gesundheit “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 8 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Imagine eating your favourite food 3 times every single fucking day for the rest of your fucking life. That's what sex feels like when you have enough of it. You want the company, not the sex. You want a friend, not the restaurant or the plate. Stop comparing woman to food, don't objectify like a sexist, grow up Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 6 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Wouldn't you say that's akin to what you're saying here? No what does astrology have to do with this? Maybe it's something about the DNA or genetics.. Got nothing to do with astrology. From my experience blonde girls are not just the most beautiful on the outside but even on the Inside.. That is a feminine.. Polite.. Classy traits. Ofcourse it's relative after all what is considered beautiful or classy might be different from your POV. 9 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Looks are important, of course. But it's relative after all so nobody's ugly. Not so simple. It should be on paper. I actually asked the same question earlier on this thread about thar ugly face they posted.. Look at it and tell that's not ugly.. It's on page 2 I guess. 11 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: Imagine eating your favourite food 3 times every single fucking day for the rest of your fucking life. That's what sex feels like when you have enough of it. You want the company, not the sex. You want a friend, not the restaurant or the plate. Or perhaps don't imagine that, but actually do it. Experience what it's like to have the same food on every meal. So are you saying I should not marry and just keep dating multiple women constantly? 28 minutes ago, Amit said: 35 minutes ago, Preety_India said: @Someone here "When you get very serious about truth you accept your life situation exactly as it is. So much so that you aren't childishly sitting around wishing it were otherwise.If you were confined to a wheelchair you would just accept it as how reality is. Just as you now just accept that you are not a bird who can fly." -Leo Gura. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 Well I'll prefer a wild latina over blonde Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 10 minutes ago, Amit said: Stop comparing woman to food, don't objectify like a sexist, grow up It applies to all genders and not specifically women. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: It applies to all genders and not specifically women Even then grow up, that's materialistic paradigm in the root of this analogy. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 23 minutes ago, Someone here said: No what does astrology have to do with this? Maybe it's something about the DNA or genetics.. Got nothing to do with astrology. From my experience blonde girls are not just the most beautiful on the outside but even on the Inside.. That is a feminine.. Polite.. Classy traits. Ofcourse it's relative after all what is considered beautiful or classy might be different from your POV. Or in other words, self-bias. You have no objective evidence or data for any of these claims except your personal experience which is prone to bias and most likely is actually biased. Relativity has nothing to do with this, even though it is true that beauty and class are relative. 23 minutes ago, Someone here said: Not so simple. It should be on paper. I actually asked the same question earlier on this thread about thar ugly face they posted.. Look at it and tell that's not ugly.. It's on page 2 I guess. "Ugly" is a concept, just like "beautiful". It is simply another way of saying attractive or unattractive, which is completely relative and out of my control. 23 minutes ago, Someone here said: So are you saying I should not marry and just keep dating multiple women constantly? No. I said go and experience what it's like to have the same food every day. Edited July 18, 2020 by Gesundheit “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, Amit said: Even then grow up, that's materialistic paradigm in the root of this analogy. The materialist paradigm is in the root of growing up. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 19 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: You have no objective evidence or data for any of these claims except your personal experience which is prone to bias and most likely is actually biased. And what else matters when it comes to picking a partner for ME? When it's your partner we might need to be objective about it.. But I'm speaking about the perfect traits that " I "want in my partner. Ofcourse I would like her to fit my biased interests.. Why not? Should I want her to fit the criteria of Donald trump lol? Edited July 18, 2020 by Someone here "When you get very serious about truth you accept your life situation exactly as it is. So much so that you aren't childishly sitting around wishing it were otherwise.If you were confined to a wheelchair you would just accept it as how reality is. Just as you now just accept that you are not a bird who can fly." -Leo Gura. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) Attraction isn't a choice but we seem to have the experience of having choice. For example if you went to a library to pick out a book to read for fun, it seems like you are making a choice. However your past conditioning, past interests, recent events, the design of the book covers, the available selection and the design, colors of the book covers and it's position on the shelf all factor in to your "choice". Really you didn't make a choice at all, even though it seems you did. The cars I think are nice, the breed of dog I have, the colors I like the wear are all based on a lot of past conditioning and chance events and what I prefer changes over time. I used to absolutely detest country music, but after years of hours and hours of having to listen to it on long bus rides in high school I started to like a handful of songs and then listened to it by choice for a year of my life. It was the most shocking thing to me that I could actually come around to liking a type of music I had absolutely hated. I think sometimes attraction and reaction is all about wanting to embody something. Attraction is just when there's no resistance to it so it feels expansive. And usually we aren't conscious of what it is we want to embody/integrate about it or why, we just feel the attraction. Any reasons we try to come up with it are shallow and shortsighted, whether it's coming up with reasons for why we like the color blue or why we like a person. Edited July 18, 2020 by mandyjw My Youtube Channel- Light on Earth “We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the Secret sits in the middle and knows.”― Robert Frost Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 @Someone here No. All I'm saying is that having unexamined biases will most likely lead to regrets. Of course, it's your life after all. “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 I want the partner that I didnt know that I wanted. Dont look at me! Look inside! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 14 hours ago, Roy said: If one is enlightened and has reached such a state of maturity why would they bother or be temped to go after shallow/vain pretty girls? God’s exploration 14 hours ago, Roy said: I know there are "no rules" and everyone can do what they want, but it's still kind of in-congruent and dishonest. No, it really isn’t Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 36 minutes ago, Gesundheit said: @Someone here No. All I'm saying is that having unexamined biases will most likely lead to regrets. Of course, it's your life after all. It's not unexamined lol. I'm currently dating that blonde girl and she played a huge role in shaping my views on dating lol.. "When you get very serious about truth you accept your life situation exactly as it is. So much so that you aren't childishly sitting around wishing it were otherwise.If you were confined to a wheelchair you would just accept it as how reality is. Just as you now just accept that you are not a bird who can fly." -Leo Gura. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 Meh, blondes are so overrated. You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 18, 2020 @Someone here good luck! “If you have no confidence in yourself, you are twice defeated in the race of life. But with confidence you have won, even before you start.” -- Marcus Garvey Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
