The More I'm Growing, The More I Feel Like My Love Is Not Genuine.

[Frogfucius]

The "love" I have for people, my family, friends, people I date, etc. no longer feels authentic. I feel like I'm entering neutral territory. I'm letting go of societal norms on how I "ought" to be. I'm still caring and nice to people, but it just feels like there's no value or meaning to these actions. Lasting romantic love is fiction. And love for friends/family only serves my need for socialization.

But I don't see these things as negatives.. I see them as liberating. Is anyone else in this position? I used to be so needy and desperate to fit in and be loved and accepted, now I'm starting to not care at all. Psychologically and emotionally, I'm starting to distance myself from everyone..physically, I am still there though.

Edited July 28, 2016 by Frogfucius

[egoeimai]

Hm it seems complicated.

Maybe dont care for a while to see what happens.

 

[Christian]

I get what you mean. For a period, I was also like that. Just did not feel I was genuine in the way I was presenning my love and other emotions sometimes. It felt off - like a part of me knew that I was bullshitting myself and others started to notice it too in a very subtle way. 

But as I've begun meditating daily, I have gotten more in touch with my higher more authentic side and I feel like I am more expressive in that light. Not like the little ego who acts it out to serve itself, but the person I was before I developed an ego. 

It is pretty fucking cool and refreshing in an awesome way.

So what is my advice?

Meditate every day - at least 20 minutes - and trust that stuff will work out over time if you just stay on the path to self actualization... 

Good luck  

 

[key]

If you are feeling detached from the emotions that were once so strong, maybe realise that other emotions, like passion, hate, sadness, happiness, boredom, annoyed, disgusted, restless, hurt, abandoned, pain, abundant, balanced, grateful, strong, fulfilled ect..

They ultimately don't mean anything, and it's as easy for them to cease to exist as easy as it is to think a new though.

11 hours ago, Frogfucius said:

I used to be so needy and desperate to fit in and be loved and accepted, now I'm starting to not care at all.

Also distancing yourself from others is fine, just be VERY aware of why, because you might just be subconsciously making new walls and pushing everything deeper down.

[Frogfucius]

Thanks for the feedback. Yeah, these feelings come up during meditation, and they just kind of stick.

I don't think I'm hurting myself, since I feel better and more authentic. It may be feelings of detachment that I have subconsciously longed for.

[Allinthemind]

Has anything happened to dent your trust?