What Has Affected Your Personality?

[Akemrelax]

Hey forum, 

Lately I have been interested in personality. I was going through YouTube when I came across a YouTuber talking about how they had a romantic relationship since they were four and how they were aware that people though of them as attractive. It got thinking, that maybe their attractiveness and the fact that they had a big family are a big reason why they are extraverted and engaged with the world. In contract, an only child with below average looks may be more isolated and be more inclined towards being imaginative and introverted. They may only be appreciated when they get high grades, so they get pushed into finding pleasure in intellectual activities. This got me thinking how our personality are shaped by little things like that.

So, I want you go through the annals of your past memories and think about an event, physical trait, person, social norm, or anything that has shaped your personality the most. Once you find that share it down below with us to study and learn from.

[ShardMare]

Playing chess competitively has changed me so much-i became very introverted, so much slower and relaxed, so focused and patient, disciplined etc etc

But also bad parenting, dysfunctional family

[meow_meow]

My father used to beat the shit out of me and my mother.

As a result of that I myself became a bully in school, but social workers and later - the police quickly learned me a lesson.
Years later I realized that I got scared/felt uncomfortable in situations when there were men around me who were the same age as my father back then. I just sort of 'froze' around them, felt fearful, uncomfortable and anxious. This of course impacted my relationship with coworkers/friend parents etc.

The deep root issue was that As a child who was witnessing his mother getting beat up, I couldn't run, I couldn't fight so I just froze. And this 'freezing' was the same emotional response to older men around me ~15 years later.

I have eventually figured and sorted this out, but I assume there are many guys/gals who are not aware of this.