Social Cleverness.how?

[Rashad]

Hi.I want to know how can someone be socially clever what are the different ways of achieving social cleverness through a long term process hence Master it?

 

what I mean when I say social cleverness

allowing yourself to interact with others and make them listen to you and stop talking about trivial things and never say the wrong thing in public.

any techniques ? 

Thanks,Regards Rashad.

[Tancrede Pouyat]

I've never actually sat down and asked myself that question, but I still consider myself extremely socially intelligent. You may at least want to consider what I'm about to say because, from the inside, I've really changed. Which I think is something you're looking for (I can tell by the way you wrote).

So here's the basic idea : pursue spirituality.

What's holding most people down in the social cleverness scale is, in my opinion, the fact that people are constantly trying to GET stuff from other people. Everybody's in deficiency mode. Everybody is constantly getting and doing. And that is really the source of all relationship problems.

When you pursue spirituality, you get centered in being, and you become more whole. You're not in deficiency mode, you're in being mode. You're not trying to get anything from anybody because you feel whole.

If you want a concrete technique I recommend meditation for 30 minutes every day for the rest of your life. And, you know, pay attention to Leo's spirituality videos.

I know it sounds counter-intuitive, and you might be resistant to it, but that's what really worked best for me. I have experienced real growth here, by doing this, I hope you will too.

[electroBeam]

@Rashad https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15014.Crucial_Conversations

list goes on and on

[Rashad]

Thanks so much @electroBeam @Tancrede Pouyat For the help I am greatfull for your advice.

[J. M. Wigglesworth]

22 hours ago, Rashad said:

 Different ways of achieving social cleverness through a long term process hence Master it?

Hoo boy. You need some RSD in your life. You're going to either hate them or love them as you tear through every single one of their videos But first a few disclaimers.

22 hours ago, Rashad said:

stop talking about trivial things

Do not expect this to happen. Social mastery will not change this because the vast majority of times you are talking to trivial people. It's who they are rather than what you're doing. If you want to go deep with somebody they also need to be able to go deep and expect for you not to judge them otherwise they will not open up.

22 hours ago, Rashad said:

never say the wrong thing in public.

Nope. Get rid of that thinking. There's nothing wrong with social calibration but you need understand that if you are trying to communicate you are and what you believe on a core level or even just make deep connections you are going to polarize people. You can become more savvy and you can start to understand the general flow of conversations. That's about it.

 

Let me share some vids with you. Quick warning: rsd is a pickup company. If you are somehow disgusted with PUA, then... watch it anyways... they lay out very powerful principles and advice about the reality of 'social dynamics'. Also these are pretty long. Here's a good place to start.

 

[ICSounds]

Look up Charisma on Command on Youtube. It's a good channel for learning people skills and isn't a pick up artist channel.