How To Keep Husband Happy And Devevolp A Beautiful Relation

[jes]

hello my actualized.org family how are you ? i want to discuss this topic with you ,as i am getting married 

[charlie2dogs]

1 hour ago, jes said:

hello my actualized.org family how are you ? i want to discuss this topic with you ,as i am getting married 

as you know by now happiness is a state of being, just like love, it take two humans who are love and happiness to create a beautiful relationship.  you already knew this didn't you?

[jes]

1 minute ago, charlie2dogs said:

as you know by now happiness is a state of being, just like love, it take two humans who are love and happiness to create a beautiful relationship.  you already knew this didn't you?

 

true love is state of being  I knew it , so my presence for him is enough , i don't need to put something extra  

[charlie2dogs]

1 minute ago, jes said:

true love is state of being  I knew it , so my presence for him is enough , i don't need to put something extra  

in order for him to love and respect you, he will have to be love, and have respect for himself, but not from an egoic mind

[jes]

Just now, charlie2dogs said:

in order for him to love and respect you, he will have to be love, and have respect for himself, but not from an egoic mind

I will teach him that , and it would be fascinating seeing him developing with me ? what do you think ?

[charlie2dogs]

Just now, jes said:

I will teach him that , and it would be fascinating seeing him developing with me ? what do you think ?

given the direction you are moving in, and the plans you have for the future, i hope you achieve that.

[jes]

Just now, charlie2dogs said:

given the direction you are moving in, and the plans you have for the future, i hope you achieve that.

he knows about my career part , I will keep on teaching him the real knowledge slowly in his language first , and i wanna share one more thing ,when i was practicing consciousness ,I found ,he felt peace surrounding me and in my presence ? is my judgement here right about him that he was peaceful being with me, or I am myself in content state ,that i project my feelings onto him ? 

[charlie2dogs]

11 minutes ago, jes said:

he knows about my career part , I will keep on teaching him the real knowledge slowly in his language first , and i wanna share one more thing ,when i was practicing consciousness ,I found ,he felt peace surrounding me and in my presence ? is my judgement here right about him that he was peaceful being with me, or I am myself in content state ,that i project my feelings onto him ? 

if you are in a peaceful state it should affect him, and he should feel peace surrounding you and in your presence

[charlie2dogs]

1 minute ago, charlie2dogs said:

if you are in a peaceful state it should affect him, and he should feel peace surrounding you and in your presence

and that should be important to him and he should have respect for it.

[jes]

1 hour ago, charlie2dogs said:

if you are in a peaceful state it should affect him, and he should feel peace surrounding you and in your presence

yes

1 hour ago, charlie2dogs said:

and that should be important to him and he should have respect for it.

he showed me importance ,or i would say ,authenic me helped me get what is required ( that is internal peace,fulfillment ,love from inside) not external 

[ProblemSolving]

Don't know too much about you @jes but, yeah, as long as your husband wants to learn from you. I just kinda cringed when reading about your husband developing with you and you will teach him stuff. In my opinion that is like an egoistic behaviour from you wanting him to change. But maybe I just don't have enough background information regarding your situation. Good luck with your dude^^ 

Ahhh, totally forgot what this topic is about: Keep husband happy by giving more than you take. Never expect . Have super wild sex with no boundaries, in case he likes sex. Be his buddy. Laugh a lot. But also find enough moments of detachment to have the feeling of freedom. Because that would suck when you are in a relationship for a long time and you do so much stuff with the other person that you totally forget about existing without this person. Not meaning that you have to keep your "identity" but just to be by yourself and still be happy. 

Edited July 19, 2016 by ProblemSolving

[Mal]

@ProblemSolving

I agree, just shop around for someone who actually wants liberation.  

Easier said than done!

[jes]

21 minutes ago, ProblemSolving said:

In my opinion that is like an egoistic behaviour from you

i don't want him  to change , thanks for pointing out ,so i will not beat myself in the process of starting my marriage life 

 

28 minutes ago, ProblemSolving said:

enough moments of detachment to have the feeling of freedom. Because that would suck when you are in a relationship for a long time and you do so much stuff with the other person that you totally forget about existing without this person

 

Thank you  i will remember this 

[jes]

25 minutes ago, Mal said:

just shop around for someone who actually wants liberation

has nature not  decided the man for me in his form ?

[Mal]

9 minutes ago, jes said:

has nature not  decided the man for me in his form ?

I don't know jes.  You have to remember I'm not enlightened, so I don't know what I'm talking about in regards to your question.  I guess I just made a silly comment.  I apologize

[jes]

1 minute ago, Mal said:

I apologize

Its ok ,no need to apologize

1 minute ago, Mal said:

I'm not enlightened

stay enlightened