Finding Clarity In Relationships

[King Merk]

I've recently noticed that all my current relationships in life are relationships I've simply "fallen into". I haven't specifically chosen my friends, family or lovers. They're all people I grew close to due to physical proximity or some sort of similar hobbies/shared interest. 

I'm not satisfied with my current relationships. I have people around me I love and care for but many of the relationships aren't as deep as I'd like. I want people around me that I can connect to on an even deeper more authentic level. 

My problem now is I'm struggling to find clarity in what it is I even want out of these relationships in life.

I know how important having a direction/goal in life is and I'm feeling lost in regards to what I want out of both my intimate partners and my friends. How does one find clarity in this? Do y'all have any resources that have helped you build genuine relationships? Whats your story with this domain of life? Any feedback is welcomed. Thanks. 

Edited June 4, 2020 by King Merk

[Roy]

How intimately do you know you? Everything else becomes more clear as you deepen your understanding of yourself.

[King Merk]

@Roy I feel like I know myself quite well when it comes to my values and my mission in life.

I’ve got my life put together really well in all areas except for relationships really.

And even my relationships aren’t necessarily “bad” They’re just not where I want them. But then again I don’t even know where I want them. That’s what I’m struggling with. 

[King Merk]

@flume your feedback has helped in more ways than you could know.

Thank you Flume