Procrastinating, Depressed and not Taking Action? Here's A Counter-intuitive Solution

[JakeyAwakey]

Hi all,

In spite of all the self-help I consume.

 

I am a lazy millennial.

I have no clear passion. 

I am depressed about my future.

I am scared of what others will think of me.

I am a perfectionist.

I am hurt easily.

And sometimes I just hate myself and my life. 

 

(Fantastic CV Collection I Know)

 

All advice in self help for my case boils down to taking action. It's clear that's what I need to do.

 

However, most of the time I just can't fucking take action.

 

I have tried for years and years to motivate myself, to stop watching YouTube, to beat myself over the head, to start my work, to start a YouTube Channel, to stick to working out and nothing works. 

 

This has been fucking aggravating and I have felt hopeless, crippled and shit so many times before.

 

I have felt so depressed and apathetic.

 

Eventually, I gave up that fucking weight and shackle of anxious laziness. When I gave up, counter-intuitively, I found my way through.

 

Here's what I want to share with you.

 

You are crippled.

You are fucking crippled and unable to take action.

 

Why are you crippled?

- Because you are doing something you hate.

- Because you have huge expectations of yourself.

- You are a perfectionist.

- You don't feel safe to fail.

- Pressure from parents.

- Pressure from teachers.

- Pressure from boss.

- Pressure from yourself.

- Fear of unworthiness.

- Fear of identity being challenged.

- Not living on purpose.

- Upset.

- Overwhelmed.

 

Notice how this list can keep going?

 

There is always a reason why you are crippled.

 

Especially in these days.

 

There is so much easy comfort.

Anything remotely challenging will drive you straight back to comfort.

 

Therefore, accept you are crippled.

 

You are crippled and hopeless.

 

If you weren't you would have taken action already.

 

But fear not, acknowledging you are crippled and hopeless is the start of moving forward.

 

I want to change your perception on crippled and hopeless completely. 

 

So listen in bucko...

 

Crippled and hopeless means you have a high action threshold.

 

An action threshold is your ability to take action.

The higher your threshold the more difficult action is.

The lower your threshold to action. The easier action becomes.

 

The problem is you could never control your threshold to action. Therefore, you have no control over taking action.

 

Well... You can lower your threshold to action.

 

When you lower your threshold to action, life becomes blissful. You will feel free from your shackles.

 

Through this you can get so much shit done and live in a peaceful state of productivity. 

 

So how do you lower your threshold to action?

 

Four Words Motherfucker...

Patience

Focus.

Reduction.

Mine.

 

Patience: Give up on short term freak outs. Give it all up. Say fuck off to the short term scurry. Fail. Fail slowly. Slowly start life. Do everything slowly. Say fuck off to everything and find peace and joy gardening. TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME YOU SPEEDSTER.

Focus: Choose the key priority, usually the most difficult and scary thing you need to do. Say fuck off to everything else you need to, other deadlines, other pressures, just commit to that one fucking thing nice and gently. Commit to one focus and accept all penalties for not completing anything else.

Reduction: Do a shit job of that thing. Do the action slowly. Do it poorly. Do it gently. Do it for a short amount of time. Either way make it stupid and slow. Also take as many breaks and free time as you want. Do a real imperfect shit rushed job and then go have fun.

Mine: Continually chip away at that. Make it easy, prioritize fun, living life, peace, hanging out with friends. Make work secondary and chip away at it. 

 

Why this works...

Patience: just be it you son of a bitch.

Focus: you are crippled because you fear committing to a task. Commit to an important task and you are half way there.

Reduction: this is a direct reduction of the task and therefore the action threshold. It makes taking action better then not taking action.

Mine: Chipping away at something like this builds momentum and lowers the action threshold.

 

Mindset needed for this work:

 

Fuck everyone who is pressuring me.

I can only do what I can do.

I give up I am crippled and depressed.

Anything I do is better then nothing.

I am going to be patient and take heaps of free time and breaks.

I am going to prioritize my happiness and free time over work.

 

 

Hey. This was all rushed. If you want a more detailed explanation let me know.

If not lets have a chat and share what works for you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[IAmTheHolySpirit]

Actually nothing is better than anything you do.

[Gili Trawangan]

Good post. Patience is something I regularly need to be reminded of.

Every now and then it's like: "oh shit, of course, forgot to be patient again"...

[Espaim]

15 hours ago, JakeyAwakey said:

Reduction: Do a shit job of that thing. Do the action slowly. Do it poorly. Do it gently. Do it for a short amount of time. Either way make it stupid and slow. Also take as many breaks and free time as you want. Do a real imperfect shit rushed job and then go have fun.

I've been thinking about that lately. Many times I won't do something because I don't want to do a poor execution but hey, a poor execution is better than none! And that gives room to learning which allows me to get better.

Perfectionism goes full circle to arrive on no action

Edited May 31, 2020 by Espaim

[h inandout]

Yes, thank you.  Tiny action.  I need to read that book "One Thing" and choose the one thing I can do literally right now that would make everything else a little bit easier.

[Whatwhat]

THx man 

very helpful

[hyruga]

Reduction and Mining look like the same thing.