The Metaphysics of Marriage

[Hello from Russia]

It includes long term relationships where you form a civil union with a partner (So-called civil union).

I've been contemplating a lot about it lately and I think many people don't appreciate how much the marriage or close long term relationship with another person can influence their lives and how many deep ramifications it may have on your psyche, development, worldviews, life purpose, action, self-esteem and many other facets of your life.

I think many people take this topic very lightly and lightheadedly. They think the other person will only serve as a sex-partner and a mother to children\provider role but in reality, it is so much more than that. You're basically becoming one unit (one holon or a system) and your choice of partner and where or not you're in a relationship (and what type of relationship) has A TON of ramifications.

You become so TIGHTly together with that person, it is although you sum up all the worldviews of each individual and then you divide it by 2 and now both people have an average of 2 people and you live your life in that way. And now you don't only have to account for your own ego backlashes but the backlashes and resistance from other people. It can greatly weight you down or accelerate you, in case you've chosen the right partner for yourself.

 

I think this would be a great topic as I see so many people are wondering around having no clue what's going in that domain aside from one-dimensional knee-jerk desire of everyone to know how to attract the right partner (pickup for men, pre-feminist\post-feminist movements for women). They want the relationship so bad but they are not conscious of all consequences.

[JosephKnecht]

Every person has blind spots in their personality. 

Marriage is a contract or a union in which blind spots are to be explored. 

When you say, till death due us part, you are saying to the other person that you wish to explore each other's blinds spots and they can't run away.

You are basically tying the knot on each other's ankles, and making a promise to tell each other truths that will grow you in every aspect.

In modern days the vow of marriage is a loose contract, and not many people tell each other the truth. So not many people grow from marriage. 

[Hello from Russia]

Just now, JosephKnecht said:

In modern days the vow of marriage is a loose contract, and not many people tell each other the truth. So not many people grow from marriage. 

We don't even have any vows here in Russia like you guys have in the EU and America officially

(Although you can, of course, come up with it if you like, noone prohibites you)

[assx95]

13 hours ago, Hello from Russia said:

We don't even have any vows here in Russia like you guys have in the EU and America officially

We do have vows in India. And there are seven vows: 

https://www.weddingwire.in/wedding-tips/hindu-marriage--c1311