I Just Can't Stand Being With Someone

[The Don]

Hello.

I still have this problem of not being comfortable around people. I don't like that much to be among people. I delight in solitude. I am alone but don't feel lonely.

I don't even like taking phone calls. When it happens, I wish my phone didn't ring.

When I watch a YouTube video about human relationships, I wonder how my life would look like if I were to live with someone. After a few seconds, a feeling of unacceptance of relationships bubbles up. It feels like something from my unconscious mind is trying to keep me away from relationships.

When I'm at work (not to brag but I work in the most expensive restaurant we have in the city), I don't feel 100% comfortable seeing myself with all those people. I just don't know why.

I would like to overcome this but at the moment, it feels impossible, and maybe I shouldn't take such feelings to be the truth.

My social anxiety morphed into social awkwardness.

It really sucks!

[universe]

Could be that you have a need from the universe. Like being validated/accepted, being protected or being in control of what is happening.

If you can feel those needs you can release these feelings via the sedona method.

The universe doesnt owe you these things. When you accept that, these social situations will become much more pleasent and joyfull. Because you are no longer in constant fear of what will happen if your needs aren't met.

[annonnimm32]

People have changed since  when you where born and they have not changed for the better.  You cant actually have a top to bottom conversation with anyone .  His phone rings and instead of listening to you he or she will gladly text them. They will let you babble on approve you and expects you to leave the party . And you know it and so you dont want to be around people. In that regard you are doing whats best for yourself not to get hurt.  However your family and its behavior twards you also contributes to you not wanting to do with anyone . Its like all of your life could not hide in a dark closet and you seen it all all the wrong things of human interaction and for your own sake said not me, i wont do it.  Your delight in solitude means that you can hug yourself and cry yourself to sleep in peace.  Still, your parents are responsible only untill you reached 18 . You dont work for them or because of them.  You work because you are able and you seek to make something that you made.  This you involves many many people poor and rich, good and bad, healthy and sick.  For starters, at your workplace you can start with Hello!

[The Don]

36 minutes ago, annonnimm32 said:

For starters, at your workplace you can start with Hello!

I pretty much do that, my friend!

I always try to open up a conversation with one of my colleagues.

[annonnimm32]

People need to see you confident, independent in order to go and talk to you.  A Hello could be seen as...  Oh, hey puppy, want a pet?  You owe them nothing of the sort.  Be confident in yourself no matter the consequences.  Enjoy your work at work and salute them as if they where a secondary objective : make them feel like you pet them.  They will lick your behind ( they will got your back) its tricky but you will find it comes in handy 

[Elton]

@The Don how about an old school perspective? 

The root cause could be lack of confidence.

What do really confident people do, such that they feel super confident?