Intentions Of Communication Map (The Ultimate Model Of Intentions Of Communication)

[UnconsciousHuman]

This model is looking at something separate from the "Cognition" or "Values" facet of Spiral Dynamics. This model is isolating, and looking in-depth at just your intention when communicating not what you communicate.

 

As Insecurity goes up, the intention to express SELF or OTHER becomes unhealthy.

As Intensity goes up the need to Express SELF or OTHER becomes stronger.

The Intentions Of Communication:

ONE: SELF/OTHER in an unhealthy manner.

• Low-Intensity expression of SELF:  Belittle.
• High-Intensity expression of SELF: Dominate.

TWO: OTHER/SELF in an unhealthy manner.

• Low-Intensity expression of OTHER:  Not confront.
• High-Intensity expression of OTHER: Conform.

THREE: SELF/OTHER in a healthy manner.

• Low-Intensity expression of SELF:  Present OTHER as wrong/flawed/inappropriate.
• High-Intensity expression of SELF: Present SELF as right/perfect/appropriate.

FOUR: OTHER/SELF in a healthy manner.

• Low-Intensity expression of OTHER:  Appreciate.
• Mid-Intensity expression of OTHER:  Connect and bond.
• High-Intensity expression of OTHER: Revere or esteem.

FIVE: 

• Intention: To better understand, clarify, or inform without regard to the role one plays in their environment. This intention is empty of the expression of SELF or OTHER. 

 

Additional Clarifications:

1. Combined intentionalities do exist frequently and this model acknowledges them.
2. Your intentions of communication are separate from your Spiral Dynamics stage.
3. Alternation between different intentions of communication is not only possible but happens all the time. (You aren't locked into one intention of communication)

 

The purpose of this thread is to present the model. I ask of you that you post only relevant and illuminating questions or remarks. I want to keep this thread organized and clean.

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

A demonstration of the different intentions:

Imaginary dialogue between @Leo Gura and a materialist.

Materialist = Spiral Dynamics stage ORANGE person.

The dialogue:

Leo Gura: On psychedelics, you can begin to see that everything is conscious and that you are connected to everything.

Materialist: *intention to better understand* But Leo couldn't that just be the effect of your brain experiencing the psychedelic compound as the neurotransmitter oxytocin? It is known that oxytocin is the bonding chemical, so couldn't your perception of "everything is connected" be explained by that perceived increase in oxytocin? 

 

Materialist: *intention to appreciate Leo + to better understand* What you're saying is truly magical! I agree with you, that is what appears to be the case, however, I have a question, couldn't your perception of "everything is connected" be explained by the psychedelic compound mimicking the neurotransmitter oxytocin? Anyways thanks for even sharing these wonderful insights! You're the best ❤️

 

Materialist: *intention to present Leo as wrong* Leo, you're blind to the reality that this experience of connection is simply because the psychedelic compound mimics the neurotransmitter oxytocin. This means that when you experience everything as bonded and connected its because your neurotransmitters make you feel that way.

 

Materialist: *Intention to "not confront" + to better understand* Yes, on psychedelics everything seems connected I agree with you, however maybe this connectedness could be a result of the psychedelics mimicking oxytocin...I'm not sure though, Im not disagreeing with you or anything.

 

Materialist: *intention to belittle and dominate Leo* What are you a fucking idiot? Woo-woo piece of shit. You just want to believe that because you're an emotional little snowflake. The reality is that psychedelic compounds mimic the neurotransmitter oxytocin and that tricks you into thinking everything is connected. Pathetic girly snowflake.

 

Same idea, different intention. Same world view, different expression.

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

If you know Coldplay you know their new album "Everyday Life" 

On the track "Trouble In Town" you can hear that there is a police agent aggressing a person. The police agent's values and morals are probably that of a Spiral Dynamics stage BLUE and his Intention of communication is "high-intensity and low-intensity expression of SELF" of ONE.

Skip to minute 2:21 to hear the dialogue.

Edited April 26, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

A bleeding heart Spiral Dynamics stage GREEN social justice warrior displaying ONE intention of communication, harassing and belittling anyone who opposes her opinion/worldview. (Homophobes, Transphobes, Islamaphobes, Anti-Environmentalists, etc..) 

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

A Spiral Dynamics stage RED gang leader being kind and loving towards loved ones. Displaying FOUR intention of communication. 

 

Edited April 26, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

A student asking a question to their teacher in class because he doesn't understand something. Displaying FIVE intention of communication.

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

Thief points a gun at the victims head displaying "high-intensity expression of SELF" of ONE intention of communication, the victim, on the other hand, displays "low-intensity and high-intensity expression of OTHER" of TWO intention of communication.

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[blowfish]

How is this model more convenient than using adjectives, or even sentences, to describe intentions of communication? In this last example the thief's intention would be threatening and the other guys submitting. You say "this model is looking in-depth at ones intention when communicating", now is there a limitation in "just looking in-depth" at ones intention of communicating, without any model? Does this model somehow help us to see more than from just being aware how someone communicates? What am I missing?

[UnconsciousHuman]

@blowfish This model allows you to better and more accurately understand first, your own intentions when communicating and secondly, the intentions of other's communication. Describing intentions of communication using adjectives, or sentences has the limitation of not being in the proper context, and that opens the possibility for weak and partial understanding.

For example: I have the intention to belittle you. What is that an expression of? and why am I doing that? Is there a more healthy intention to have? This model indicates the fact that I feel insecurity and I'm expressing SELF. This model also shows what healthier intention to have. 

Using your line of thought... “Well, why is Spiral Dynamics more convenient than describing people by characteristics and behaviors?” And the same gist of what I expressed earlier would be used to answer that question.

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In this last example the thief's intention would be threatening and the other guys submitting.

The thief wants to threaten but what is the more raw, felt intention? This is what I mean by looking in-depth. It is looking at the prior, more subconscious intention before it crystallizes as an action or behavior. You would have to put yourself in the thief's shoes in order to really understand what that's like.

Example: You could have the intention to kiss your lover but the deeper, more raw intention is to "connect and bond".

 

Im sure this clarified some of your confusion. I ask of you that you not respond to this reply for reasons explained above in the original first post of this thread.

Edited April 28, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman

[UnconsciousHuman]

The next time someone tries to belittle or make fun of you... just remember the model. What's really happening is that the individual is experiencing insecurity and expressing SELF. "High-intensity expression of SELF" of ONE intention of communication.

Edited April 27, 2020 by UnconsciousHuman