Why my girlfriend "hate asmr" , any idea ?

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

I know it sounds weird, I would even say that asmr is so much a "girl thing".

I cannot convince her, even "nature noise" doesn't work, she don't like it, and I can't figure out why. ( child trauma ? )

I appreciate asmr on my side, especially "happy trigger asmr" if you know him ( one of the only one I listen to, he has a good vibe, and good rythm, basic, authentic, enough for me when I need to sleep with some weird noises )

She aswell hate "mouth sounds", and when I say "hate" I m litteral. She can even hate on me if I m eating too loudly. ( it really got my nerve when she told me about it, I m the kind of geek who doesn't fucking care how I eat, like a pig is ok for me hahaha )

I m looking for something to heal her, at this point for me it's non sense, you cannot "hate" on "simple sounds", it makes no sense.

thanks for your insights <3

Edited April 24, 2020 by GodDesireOnlyLove

[Carl-Richard]

41 minutes ago, GodDesireOnlyLove said:

I m looking for something to heal her, at this point for me it's non sense, you cannot "hate" on "simple sounds", it makes no sense.

Heal her from what? Don't try to force something on somebody if they don't like it

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@Carl-Richard why ?

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@remember She enjoy music exactly the same way as me, it's really ASMR that she don't like.

I found that ASMR is related to "close intimacy" maybe it penetrate your psyche and provocate some brain responses she doesn't appreciate ( don't know ) but very interested in the topic.

besides music isn't a problem we listen the same volume

yeh this one is good too, thanks ;p

 

it's call'd misophonia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia

Edited April 24, 2020 by GodDesireOnlyLove

[Carl-Richard]

@GodDesireOnlyLove Most often, people don't want help unless they're asking you for it.

Edited April 24, 2020 by Carl-Richard

[Hansu]

2 hours ago, GodDesireOnlyLove said:

I found that ASMR is related to "close intimacy"

 

Can you tell me more about this?

I absolutely hate ASMR and habits like eating with your mouth open to make disgusting sounds. Drives me crazy to the point that I either leave or tell the other person to eat like a normal human being.

But if it could help me grow in terms of intimacy, I wouldnt mind trying asmr

 

Edited April 24, 2020 by Hansu

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@Hansu apparently brain related and no solution so far. Maybe psychedelic could help giving another perspectives to the brain level. But not sure long term. All asmr ? Does it happen with others natural sounds ?

Edited April 24, 2020 by GodDesireOnlyLove

[Hansu]

@GodDesireOnlyLove

All ASMR, especially ones with sounds coming from mouth.

Sounds of nature are not annoying to me, in fact its the exact opposite.

[intotheblack]

21 hours ago, GodDesireOnlyLove said:

one of the only one I listen to, he has a good vibe, and good rythm, basic, authentic, enough for me when I need to sleep with some weird noises

 

Hey @GodDesireOnlyLove can you post a link to the type of music you were listening to? 

[intotheblack]

I love this video of Bjork talking about her TV.  People say it’s pure ASMR haha 

someone made it into a 40 min video on repeat 

 

Edited April 25, 2020 by intotheblack

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@Hansu Did you try to do it yourself with your own mic/settings, if a friend have any maybe give it a self trial,

maybe doing it yourself and knowing it's your own sound making ? what about having someone whispering in your ears ? like a gf ? does it gives you chill or "weird feeling" ? seriously asking. Same if someone play low drumming with objects close to your ear, how do you feel about it ?

 misophonia as a music producer, seams totaly non sense to my perspective, but I accept it, I even have one of those fat yeti micro for asmr ( and vocal recording )

@intotheblack  We listen a lot of music, from all kinds of genre, electronic music mostly.

I don't see specific, we listen all genre, lol, that's why it's weird, drums are passive asmr, I don't understand where is the beginning and the end.

Edited April 25, 2020 by GodDesireOnlyLove

[Hansu]

3 hours ago, GodDesireOnlyLove said:

Did you try to do it yourself with your own mic/settings, if a friend have any maybe give it a self trial,

maybe doing it yourself and knowing it's your own sound making ? what about having someone whispering in your ears ? like a gf ? does it gives you chill or "weird feeling" ? seriously asking. Same if someone play low drumming with objects close to your ear, how do you feel about it ?

Its funny you mention that, because in my previous post I originally included "I mostly hate sounds others make, I dont mind sounds I do myself" but I erased that part because I felt it was not adding any value to it. I guess I wouldn't mind the sounds even when recorder if I was doing the sounds myself.

Usually my reaction apart from becoming agitated is that I start to think "that sounds is unnecessary". I'll try to see if listening to ASMR with the idea that it is "not unnecessary" changes my reaction to it

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@Hansu Yes I was thinking on the metaphysical perspective of it,

but really I believe I can trust your direct experience on this.

Give it a try without expectation maybe, just chill out, don't 'expect' something, just exploring your own reaction to it ( if you wish ofc, not pushing you to do the trial, but I m not lying, I m curious )

for me it has been healing in many moments, but sure, not everyone will find value in it.

I find it very relaxing, sometimes it gives me a real feeling not "placebo feeling", especially now it could help people in quarantine, for me it act sometimes like some sort of a "natural drug" that fuel my body with a smooth mild energy, like a "natural codeïne".

Good when I have a hard time finding sleep to certain hours, I would prefer if ASMR can help besides taking drugs or any "pills". ( Now I m more into audiobook though )

There is aswell people with asmr mic, just walking around in nature ( someone do it in Iceland, walking on sand beach, maybe more your thing, just an idea )

big thanks for your answer, funny yes hahaha, but I m happy anyway that you did, and didn't expect that I wanted to know ;p 
will give the mic to my gf and see how she react to her own making ( whe she come back  )

 

Edited April 25, 2020 by GodDesireOnlyLove

[SgtPepper]

Just let her be. why does she have to like asmr?

[GodDesireOnlyLove]

@SgtPepper why ?

[Artaemis]

On 25/04/2020 at 1:32 AM, GodDesireOnlyLove said:

@remember She enjoy music exactly the same way as me, it's really ASMR that she don't like.

I found that ASMR is related to "close intimacy" maybe it penetrate your psyche and provocate some brain responses she doesn't appreciate ( don't know ) but very interested in the topic.

besides music isn't a problem we listen the same volume

yeh this one is good too, thanks ;p

 

it's call'd misophonia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia

Quite often those who are sensitive to sound and have misophonia or the equivalent appreciate asmr.  

I'm a highly sensitive person and ASMR provides relief from all the thoughtless sound pollution. There is a greater asking for ASMR in my vortex (AH teachings).

[Artaemis]

It might be that there is just less of an 'asking' for her. 

[Raptorsin7]

@Artaemis  How did you enter your vortex?

I understand the logic of Abraham's teachings, but I don't know how to get into receiving mode and just feel good first before I get manifesitations.

[Artaemis]

@Raptorsin7 I think I should stay away from teaching.