decision making

[Viking]

im having trouble making decisions. i have no life experience. every decision i make i can look at so many perspectives and possibilities but none of them have any weight so i just dont know what to do and im afraid to make wrong decisions.

usually i choose the thing that sounds most rational and "safe"

what should i do?

Edited April 22, 2020 by Viking

[IJB063]

@Viking

"He who is not courageous enough to take risks will achieve nothing in life" - Muhammad Ali

From Robert Greene 48 Laws of Power

Law 28

ENTER ACTION WITH BOLDNESS

If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

We all make mistakes in life, that's no excuse for not making decisions

There is no shame in failure only in not trying

Overly used quote but it applies

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"

That's my philosophy anyway

Just now, Viking said:

what should i do

The balls in your court buddy and its your life

No one can tell you what to do

That's for you to figure out

[IJB063]

@Viking

The way you get life experience is by making decisions 

You might fail, but failure is the best teacher

[Viking]

@IJB063 obvious advice but i think it inspired me a lot upon thinking about it more.

i think the reason im timid is because im afraid to fuck up my psyche or create traumas but i guess there's no way to avoid that and live a life at the same time

[IJB063]

@Viking

 

[Viking]

6 minutes ago, IJB063 said:

@Viking

 

thanks, but i dont avoid suffering when jm sure 100% it's necessary i just go into it what i am trying to avoid is unnecessary suffering

[IJB063]

@Viking

Yeah, just saying the fear of creating these traumas is a mechanism by which traumas are created

Just now, Viking said:

what i am trying to avoid is unnecessary suffering

But that's a good point

[Viking]

2 minutes ago, IJB063 said:

Yeah, just saying the fear of creating these traumas is a mechanism by which traumas are created

ohh i see. 

i guess cuz i didnt experience much traumas the term "trauma" is too abstract for me so i dont kno what im talking about hahaha

thanks

[IJB063]

@Viking

Yeah I was only using the word trauma because you brought it up and I was using it in a very broad way, in this context its synonymous with everything else you mentioned e.g. mental illness, fucking up your psyche etc...

Edited April 22, 2020 by IJB063