TveinDenis

How To Deal With Bad Days

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All of us had at some point bad days. Maybe once a month or once a week or maybe some days in a row. I can say that those kind of days are created, they don't appear of nowhere. They are created by the things we do and we do not along the day, how we think about certain things that happens and how we react to it. I concluded that not the external events are the ones that make a day "bad" but the way we perceive and classify them.

Some thing could be at the same time a nightmare or a beautiful dream. You make the difference between the two.

"There is neither good or bad but thinking makes it so"

I always wanted to see opportunities in everything and being more self disciplined and to construct self discipline I started by building good habits (reading everyday, meditating, wake up early, doing exercices, working on my life purpose and many others) and treating bad ones (watching porn, television, browsering the internet etc) and so far that worked so well but the problem is that when I break some of this "rules" that I made for myself, almost my entire day is going down, I feel miserable and it go worse if I don't remediate the problem quickly. And to do that I apply the thing that Leo calls "do what is emotionally hardest thing to do" and it works pretty well. I push myself to continue the work and my day remediates. Of course that I can't do this everytime because as Leo says, it's hard.:D

Now my questions for you are: how do you remediate a bad day? Do you have the discipline to not slacking of in those things you need to be doing? How did you construct that? What technique do you use and what helped you the most so far?

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@TveinDenis i think this will be something we face until the die we day. it's the flux and flow of life. i can guarantee most people experience these moments where we stray off course. 
For me when a day is going bad, especially due to breaking one of my "rules", the first thing I do is let go of the disappointment. I don't connect to it. I'm not saying I try to change the mood I'm in it, but I don't fight it either. I usually stop whatever I'm doing and just let those "bad feelings" do their dance around my head. So for example one of my rules is to not browse the internet all day, sometimes without much realization I end up doing that. So when I catch myself doing that and the bad feelings start coming up. I grab a journal and I write why it was I didn't want to browse the internet all day in the first place. Reconnecting will help alter my subconscious and get me on a better track to try again the next day. After I do that, I just literally let the feelings do what they want. Bad feelings are gonna come, but I think it's knowing how impermanent they are, that makes them not have a strong hold on us. 
Also going for a walk and putting on positive music is helpful, as is doing something kind for someone, like calling a friend or family member and seeing how they are doing and giving someone your full attention. Take the attention off you and soon those feelings will melt into the atmosphere like they always do :)

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Repetition! Repeat a positive message with empowering words in front of the mirror , around 10 times ( Romania as well :)).

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