Religious Parents

[Anon212]

It's more of a religious parent. I am a college student and with this lock down in place, I have had to come back home to my family. I have been away at college for the past three years and have grown immensely there through self-inquiry, meditation and just new experiences. I no longer have the same view of God and have completely let go of religion though I don't take issues with other people practising it. I found Leo and many other individuals that I now follow including Sadhguru, Osho, Eckhart Tolle, Mooji, McKenna and Alan Watts. Of course with these people my whole perception and awareness has been transformed and while this is a good thing it seems to cause conflict when I return home. My mother is an extraordinarily devout Muslim. She prays five times a day and spends hours beyond that praying in other ways and that's fine. But as of late - especially with the onset of this pandemic, she is throwing around crazy terms like this is God's doing, we are paying for our sins, etc... She is also constantly nagging and shouting at me to pray. I just simply don't want to. Shes created a religious utopia in her mind where she prays all day and I join her and we spend the day asking for forgiveness from big papa up there. But when I don't engage, she starts crying, shouting, all of this emotional drama. She starts victimising herself. I can see that her suffering is self created because she is projecting her ideal world onto me and when I fail her she becomes an emotional wreck. Now that aside, I always do my share of work in the house; in terms of laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping and so on. I would love to chill with her, sit and chat and spend time together but it doesn't to work. I thought about spiral dynamics but I'm not to sure what exactly I would do with that. Or maybe I am the problem here too? Maybe all of this is in my head? Anyone else been in this position before? Anyone have any advice? Maybe I need to check my self. I just wish she would leave me to be as I am without requiring me to do anything.

[liamnewsom202]

My parents are much more relaxed in comparison to what lots of people go through. I think a good take away is that people really do love at their level of conciousness. Its really easy to see the faults and everything wrong about the people we love and have trusted since a child. Its pretty shocking when your first starting to wake up and you realize that your parents would think your crazy. Can lead to alot of destruction. I think what would really help is if you show your mom as much love as you can and understand where she is coming from but try not to judge it as hard as that is. Really try and center yourself in what you preach and appreciate and love where she is at and use that to learn about the nature of human psychology. Maybe the time when she wants you to pray try and meditate through it and use it for time for being mindful. Its great to follow role models like all the guys you mentioned, its hard when you see your parents as these beacons of nothing but the truth and its shattering when you see through all the illusion but it was bound to happen. Take it easy and know that once your through this you will grow tons and try and really find truth and see the positive aspects to this situation

[Osaid]

@Anon212 Holy shit this is like synchronicity for me. I just came back from my mom nagging me about praying, she started doing this recently now. My mom is also muslim lol

Edited April 10, 2020 by Osaid

[Nahm]

If anybody wants to pay for my food, mortgages, utilities, clothes, etc, so I can meditate five times a day let me know. Pm me. Thanks!

 

[Alexop]

Many would say that if you cannot accept them as they are and live with them in the same house without any drama, you are not developed enough. I don`t buy into that shit, you are at a different level, you overcame the stage blue way of life, you have different style of living, different mentality. Even if you accept them as they are, they would not accept you as you are, they will try to drag you at their level. What you need to do in the future depends on how much you care and need them. For sure don`t try to change them, only if they ask for advice. I have the same problem with my parents, I just moved away and do stuff in my own style, although I still talk to them from time to time.

[Osaid]

@Alexop Agreed, you shouldn't be hanging around negative people like that 24/7. More better to figure out how to live independently.

[RareGodzilla]

I fell you guys. My parents are heavy in Christianity. Fortunately it's the slightly more progressive western version with slight stage green characteristics. I basically try to hold myself back to not be disrespectful. I pray with them before lunch and go to church for biggest events like Easter to make them happy. I also try to find pararels between my socialist-ish and their ideology. You'd be surprised how many there are.