Moralizing Guidance

[soniadoll_]

I've been moralizing my entire life and have constantly told myself that I should stop talking when I do talk. Since watching various videos I am still afraid of speaking. I know this takes time but in my head I justify not allowing myself to talk because I think it will lead to building of the ego, and I want to be able to turn that around. I want to know the difference between sharing your accomplishments, your failures, your thoughts without building my ego. Just pure communication with someone else, no ego.

[charlie2dogs]

4 hours ago, soniadoll_ said:

I've been moralizing my entire life and have constantly told myself that I should stop talking when I do talk. Since watching various videos I am still afraid of speaking. I know this takes time but in my head I justify not allowing myself to talk because I think it will lead to building of the ego, and I want to be able to turn that around. I want to know the difference between sharing your accomplishments, your failures, your thoughts without building my ego. Just pure communication with someone else, no ego.

that comes from growth, inner growth, and others may still see what you are saying as exercising your ego, so once you are able to do that you may have to pick and choose who you share with, or you will have to listen to someone who thinks it is your ego doing it.  if you look carefully here on the forum you will see occasionally someone's ego gets hurt and they can't control themselves.  and when you are in a public forum some take what you have to say to mean whats in their head or what they believe,  so there is no easy answer to your problem except personal growth and then be a little careful who you are talking to and in a public forum just have a thicker skin for the foolish and unconscious functioning  identities

[Allinthemind]

You fear judgement by talking and have justified it by thinking that talking will inflate your ego. You will master your communication by talking more and reflecting on the interaction. Self belief and confidence in social situations is there for you to develop. Your response can help you (and the others) appreciate how well you are listening.

[soniadoll_]

@charlie2dogs thank you.