Can You See Self-Realisation in the Eyes?

[Pilgrim]

I feel like there is a certain kind of "stare" in self-realised beings.. there is something about the eyes that is different. Sometimes even somewhat scary to me. I think I actually might have even met one in person some time ago and I remember the first time I saw him I was really a little bit frightened about the look in his eyes.. it just felt like there is nobody there.. it was not a focused look, but just kind of like staring into space a bit. But I felt immediately comfortable with him.. just his eyes kind of irritated me at first. I don't know, it's just an observation I have made and would like to know if other people have experienced something similar? 

[Peter124]

What is the white light?

[traveler]

Because there is no one here. If there is no one here, then I see no one there, Love.

Edited April 3, 2020 by traveler

[student]

Possibly. But the same stare can be found in people who are lost in illusion (maya). No one is there either.

The body is mimicking, reflecting the quality of the one inside it. You should not be focused on the appearance (body, any parts of it) but rather on the whole. "The whole" is not solely the body. Body is only a part of the whole. If you focus on the parts you will be stuck in a myopic perspective. You see the whole when you take a 3rd perspective. Look at the person as a whole. Everything external is actually pointing to the internal. People are always letting out their internal, through everything not only their eyes. What is that which they let out? Don't let "you" judge. Let them judge themselves to you. If that makes sense. Take a bystander position. Do not involve. Everything is letting itself be known naturally.

Edited April 3, 2020 by student

[silene]

I wouldn't call it a stare, more like a full attention and presence which most unawakened folks haven't achieved. Their compassionate and loving listening puts us on the spot, invoking us to open up our innermost feelings and suffering which is usually hidden from the world out of fear. We don't feel comfortable opening up to most people because we (probably rightly) fear they have selfish motives. But an awakened person has no agenda of their own, just unconditional love, which is scary and irresistible at the same time!