The HEALING ROAD

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The journey of the heart 

Post in draft mode. 

The wounded heart 

The heart that feels pain and hurt and or anger. The heart that feels betrayal or loss 

In this state the heart is trapped 

When your emotions are in a knot, you are experiencing emotional entanglement which I described before in the previous draft posts. In this state you feel stressed. The stress keeps accumulating, you feel confused, unusual, you feel uncertain, your emotions are messed up. You don't feel good at all. This can happen during 

• An argument 
• Childhood trauma 
• Work stress
• Bad toxic relationships 
• Inability to achieve goals 
• Bullying 
• Getting trolled
• Ostracization 
• Dehumanization 
• Getting discriminated
• Having a bad day 
• Financial issues
• General anxiety 
• Feeling upset 
• Feeling triggered 
• Feeling provoked 
• Feeling harassed 
• Feeling tormented 

These are just a few examples where the heart is experiencing emotional entanglement which can feel like a knot as though you're tied up or your emotions are in a knot. 

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Once you realize that you are in a knot, its important to unravel this knot as fast as you can so you feel free. Being free is your original state. 

It takes some amount of time to unravel and untangle and undo the knot and come to the original state of freedom. This is what I call emotional liberation. 

There is a distinct difference between the words freedom and liberation. Liberation is the feeling of being set free of something. Freedom is an opportunity you have that you can use to do something. Without freedom you cannot get anything done. Without liberation you are trapped. Liberation is an essential component of freedom. Only when you are liberated you can actually have the freedom to do something. 

Let me explain this with an example.. 

Let's say you're kidnapped and trapped in a house. You do not have the freedom to leave the house for the first 4 days. Maybe after that you are allowed to go out for a period of 2 hours. But you have to be back home within the time. Or there will be problems. 

It's your 5th day and now you are free to go out for limited periods of time. This can be considered freedom. You have the freedom to do a certain thing under certain conditions. However you are not completely or unconditionally free. 

You have certain freedoms only. This is not liberation because you are still trapped in the same house where you don't want to be. You are still in captivity. 

The only way to feel liberated is to be taken out of captivity. 

So having freedom  does not always mean being liberated. 

In order to have total freedom it's necessary to be liberated from the chains.. 

A simple definition of an emotional hostage is someone who is stuck feeling like they don't know what to do next in a particular situation or relationship.

Both liberation and freedom are important. 

So now let's see a situation where you feel liberated but not free 

An example could be... 

Imagine you're a rich kid living in your dad's house. You have all the autonomy and everything at your disposal. But there are certain rules around the house. One of those rules is that you are not allowed to bring friends home. Or you are not allowed to drive at a certain hour. You are allowed a stipulated amount of money only when you specify your requirements in such a way they meet the criteria. 

This is an example where you feel liberated or you're liberated but not free. You aren't technically being confined or severely restricted but you are to follow rules and conditions to get what you want. Now these rules can be very trivial and easily dealt with or they can become a headache. When there are too many rules you essentially lose your freedoms. It's a covert way of taking away your freedom. You can free to do things but you are handicapped when something needs to be done. 

This is like you're free to walk but your legs are injured. You are free to fly but your wings are cut. This is not freedom nor it is imprisonment. It is basically "Control" not necessarily hostage or imprisonment but control. Your motions are controlled. Conditions are being put where none are needed. 

One way of putting this is... The previous situation can be described as "you're not allowed" 

And this situation can be described as 

"you're allowed but you will get this only if you fulfill the conditions" 

Both look same but they are not. 

The situation where you're not allowed you cannot do anything at all.

Let me explain this further. 

Let's say you're in a third world country under a totalitarianism or dictatorial regime and you are not allowed to leave the country. You are not even allowed to leave your city. You are only supposed to  do what the regime tells you. Basically you are denied your humanity. You are not allowed freedom of speech. So if you speak up, you will be imprisoned or face harsh punishment. 

This is a case where you need liberation (as well as freedom which will be needed subsequently) 

Now let's take the case of a person in a first world country. 

You're allowed to go wherever you want. You can leave the country if you want. You have been given your basic liberties. (statue of liberty comes to mind) but let's say you needed an important medicine and you don't have your prescription then you won't get it. There can be a lot of bureaucratic tape that must break through in order to just get daily necessities. 

But you do have the liberty to leave the country anytime and you can do whatever you want with your life because you are liberated, not exactly free but liberated. 

Your freedoms are still bound to conditions.

Ill also include some portion on emotional freedom. 

 

To have emotional liberation, you need to cut through the knot that your heart is entangled in. 

Breaking the knot. 

Breaking the knot and setting the heart free is not an easy job. The first step in this direction is realization and awareness. You need to be aware that you are being held hostage to your emotions. You need to be aware that it's okay if you are being held hostage to your emotions as long as your emotions are happy and wonderful and supportive. But when you have negative emotions, things don't look great. Being aware that you are gradually falling into the trap of the emotional knot is the key. This knot is slowly getting stronger and firmer and even more convoluted and intricate. It can reach levels of complexity that are impossible to unravel. Before this happens, you need to break and undo the knot as fast as you can. Once you see yourself trapping into the knot, you have to back off from the situation and the emotions arising out of  that situation. So let's say your classmate is bullying you and you feel angered and provoked. You need to be able to be calm and watch how your emotions are slowly enveloping to form that destructive knot. Before this happens, take action, back off from the situation, take time to gather yourself together and keep your emotional constitution intact and healthy. Don't let it form knots or get disrupted. 

One way is to break the knot early on during its formative stages. You can do this quickly and instantly. 

However, not all knots are this easy. They don't just go away with simply a thought or action. 

Some knots are formed over years and years of emotional abuse and psychological abuse as in an adult who has experienced child abuse during their formative years. 

This will need a lot of unpacking to be done. 

Also if you have not exactly suffered emotional abuse, you could have suffered years and years of tremendous emotional stress. 

Examples of emotional stress can be 

• Bad relationships 
• Too many fights in a relationship 
• Too many fights in a family 
• Financial problems 
• Overbearing boss 
• Bullying at college, school or workplace 
• Stalking 
• Narcissistic abuse from parents or authority 
• Abuse at a church or cult 
• An incident of racism, discrimination or humiliation which is public 
• Living with a bipolar or mentally ill person 
• Working as a nurse, doctor, psychiatrist, counselor or social worker 
• Working in law enforcement dealing with crimes, criminals and crime victims families. 
• Working as an actor in heavy duty emotional roles 
• Suffering from a mental illness for years 
• Listening to emotional music as a bad habit 
• Constant crying or having severe loss of emotional control 
• Having suffered parental neglect 
• Drug addiction 
• Raised in a violent neighborhood 
• Exposed to some form of violence in formative years 
• Abuse by a schoolteacher like physical beating or sexual or pressure or bullying 
• Cyberbullying 
• Having encountered suicide in the family or friends circle 
• Having encountered single or multiple deaths of persons or pets in the family or friends circle 
• Unable to cope with the loss of a person or pet 
• Failed marriages and divorce 
• Unable to cope with the divorce of parents 
• Suffered loss of home or resources in an earthquake or disaster 
• Suffered homelessness at some point in life 
• Suffered PTSD due to one or a specific set of incidents 
• Being wrongfully arrested, evicted, sent to prison or jail. 
• Suffered sexual assault in the street or by family, neighbor, boyfriend or friend. 
• Being sent to military at young age 
• Military associated PTSD because of bad memories 

The list goes on and on. 

Over years these triggers and stressor   build up and cause extensive damage to the heart and body. 

They accumulate. 

Remember, there'll always be some factor behind your emotional stress. It may or may not be on the list but it'll be something that is causing you stress. 

 

It's important to isolate these triggers and factors one by one and deal with them individually. 

One important word to consider here is the word avoid 

 

Some of the stressors are avoidable, not easily but still avoidable. Like for example you could give up a drug habit, you could counteract bullying either by a formal complaint or by switching to a different school. 

Whenever it's avoidable, Avoid.. 

When it's not, then you need to find strategies to minimize damage, strategies to cope with the situation, strategies to escape the situation, strategies to find a resolution to the situation if escape is not possible or unwanted or unhelpful. 

One example could be contacting child protection services or social services when you are stuck in a dysfunctional abusive relationship with your parents /family /neighborhood /church/cult etc. 

There is always a road ahead, a twist, a turn, a rope to hold on to during a desperate period, there is always a way to cope or get out and escape further damage or a way to find ultimate freedom.

So there is two way approach to the problem of emotional stress

• Avoidance 
• Resolution 
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Dealing with Emotional Damage

Once you have successfully avoided or resolved the problem of emotional entanglement or removed the stressor and untangled the knot, you have found the way to emotional liberation. 

Also explain emotional freedom blockage. 

emotional liberation different from emotional freedom and emotional  and emotional entanglement, emotional distress, emotional damage, emotional abuse, emotional hostage, emotional independence, emotional healing, emotional disruption or emotional blockage. 

The focus of this particular post is more on emotional entanglement and emotional liberation and healing from emotional damage 

Dealing with emotional damage. 

Once you have successfully achieved emotional liberation, the next focus needs to be on dealing with emotional damage. 

This means healing the emotional constitution and bringing it back to its original state and then working towards the Regeneration phase. 

This phase is basically the Healing Phase. The earlier phase was the struggling phase or Coping phase. 

In this phase you need to start your journey towards a recovery and a full rebound. 

Now obviously you have PTSD symptoms and emotional distress symptoms EDS, you have unresolved aggression, and a bunch of symptoms arising from the situations you escaped/survived. 

Now it's time to get rid of these symptoms and remove the emotional agitation and replace it with happiness and a sense of peace. Also it's time to get your energy reserves back. I'll call them Emotional Energy Reserves. These have been depleted during your time of stress. It's time to fill them back. To replenish. Energy reserves are vital for motivation and stimulation to live life. These are what make you want to explore, have relationships, want a family, go to work, live your best life, create joy and pleasure and they create a natural enthusiasm to live life. 

When you are in a state of depression and emotional recession and emotional stress, these emotional  energy reserves get greatly depleted. This causes agitation, nervousness, losing the will to live, suicidal ideation, and a general state of apathy. You just don't feel like doing anything. You don't think anything is useful...

Healing the emotional constitution 

This is the phase where you get the emotional energy reserves back. You focus on replenishment. 

There are ways to heal the emotional constitution back to its original un-maladapted or unimpacted form, unadulterated form 

Some of the ways. 

• Laughter therapy 
• Focusing on a sense of achievement 
• Achieving baby goals 
• Taking baby steps
• Lot of sleep and adequate rest. 
• Music 
• Meditation 
• Walking in the woods 
• Talk therapy and venting 
• Psychological therapy (professional) 
• Change of place. Relocating 
• Positive visualization 
• Going on a vacation to an island 
• Watching relaxing and comedy movies 
• Positive distraction 
• Exercise 
• Massage 
• Spa therapy
• Taking care of nutritional needs. 
• Supplements for depression and other issues
• Making new friends 
• Journaling 
• Avoiding toxic people 
• Taking care of the body and physical needs
• Building a robust health 
• Listening to ASMR
• Nature therapy 
• Listening to nature sounds 
• Surrounding yourself with positive uplifting caring supportive people 
• Laughter therapy 
• Yoga 
• Picking a hobby 
• Dancing 
• Walking meditation 
• Spending time with pets 
• Helping other people 
• Staying happy 
• Loving the self 
• Staying peaceful 
• Being happy with little things 
• Keeping small goals 
• Living in simplicity 
• Retail therapy (don't let this be an addiction) 
• Comfort food (just like retail therapy this is only okay for a short period) 
• Sex (sex is the most powerful drug) 
• Driving 
• Self love 
• Self care 
• Confronting and Labeling emotions 
• Labeling situations 
• Metta meditation 
• Playing games 
• Being a part of an organization or community 
• Psychedelics 
• Spending time with family and friends 
• Gratitude journal 
• Humour 
• Positive affirmations 
• Building self esteem
• Setting Boundaries 
• Rewarding self
• Seeking spirituality 
• Prayers 
• Finding love through God 
• Growing in love 
• Destroying and discarding negative emotions 
• Looking and appreciating the beauty of life 
• Creating the fountain of love and positive emotions in life 
• Energy healing methods or Energy based healing methods like Chi Gong, Reiki, Chakra, acupuncture, etc 
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Dealing with Emotional Damage. 

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Edited April 7, 2020 by Preety_India

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The heart is the Epicenter 

 

(Post in draft mode) 

The heart is the main circulatory organ of the body. It supplies essential nutrients to all parts of the body. In a way its the Central Control Unit or System. 

 

I'll call the heart the Epicenter of the body. 

 

Image here 

 

I'll also call it the Epicenter of the mind. 

(post in progress) 

You take care of the heart Chakra and it takes care of all other Chakras 

 

Edited April 7, 2020 by Preety_India

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Healing the emotional constitution... 

This part is over. 

The next.

Im also going to add some tidbits on emotional independence and how to be completely free of validation and believe in acceptance and love 

 

Creating a fountain of Love 

Creating a fountain of peace , hope, acceptance and unconditional love.

This depends on how much love you want to create in yourself. 

It's something you cultivate. You cultivate that river of love within you. 

 

Working towards The Regeneration Phase 

 

This phase is about strengthening and building. This is the last phase. 

In this phase you need to focus on building your inner emotional constitution to a much healthy level so that it doesn't degrade or doesn't get weakened easily by outside forces, this is basically building the inner Fortress. 

This can be done in many ways 

• Encouraging 
• Believing in self 
• Rights and power
• Empowering yourself
• Learning different skills
• Learning survival skills
• Maintaining positive emotional state 
• Working on your nutrition plan
• Getting good sleep
• Setting higher goals 
• Emotional Detachment 
• Working on your grooming 
• Getting bolder and stronger 
• Exercise
• Mental exercises 
• Therapy 
• Positive affirmations 
• Creating a strict schedule 
• Proper diet 
• Not neglecting yourself at all 
• Working hard 
• Focusing on self actualization 
• Building self esteem 
• Building self control 
• Developing Counterintuitive strategies 
• Monitoring emotional state 
• Cultivating Emotional Maturity 
• Cultivating Emotional Intelligence 
• Cultivating Emotional Mastery 
• Taking responsibility for your emotions. 
• Continuously investing in self growth. 
• Work from scratch 
• Cultivate different spiritual practices 
• Be yourself 
• Carry yourself with pride
• Live in Grace 
• Live in Love and Peace 
• Have passion for life 
• Become  your best self 
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Edited April 8, 2020 by Preety_India

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The difference between the healing phase and the Regeneration phase is that the healing phase is studying the map, collecting the resources for the journey and getting mentally prepared for it while the Regeneration phase is actually undertaking the journey with the map.

I'll be adding more methods to the Regeneration phase as and when I discover new methods. 

The post is in progress. 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited April 8, 2020 by Preety_India

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Sometimes losing is winning

 

 

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Last night I had a dream where a man wouldn't stop harassing me. He was trying to get sexual and I was constantly telling him to back off but he was being very brazen. 

It was a frightening dream. 

 

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Worshipping the Egg

 

 

 

 

 

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For some weird reason I'm very happy today. 

 

 

 

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Doing well financially doesn't equal having good mental health. 

 

 

 

 

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 * Be unapologetically yourself. 

 

* the heart needs a lot of love, not judgement. 

 

 

* society makes victims feel like villains. 

 

 

 

* to myself - keep being you. Keep doing you. 

 

Btw - (this stalker of mine is another maimed down version of an annoying fucker) 

 

Edited April 10, 2020 by Preety_India

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I'll use this journal for 2 things or goals 

• Be your best self.. Become a better person every day. 
• Live your best life 

And I will use emotional healing in this journal to achieve these goals.. 

 

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Never did a video calm me down so much

 

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Yesss. Melts my mouth 

 

 

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I should do this for next Easter 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited April 13, 2020 by Preety_India

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Loving this cake.. During the lockdown this is best. 

 

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Dealing with the devil. 

 

Now you've got to be careful what you're dealing with. 

Because in your mind you could be dealing with this intense pressure or anxiousness. You can call it the devil. 

In some ways its the devil. But there are ways to deal with it. 

 

 

 

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Dealing with the devil. 

It's hard I know. How you must feel. 

Sometimes in your mind all these thoughts are.. 

 

 

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10 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

In some ways its the devil. But there are ways to deal with it. 

Become a pudwiser.