how to get over bad news in a healthy way

[lostmedstudent]

I have never developed a healthy way to deal with bad news. when i get a bad news, usually it means i did not get something that i really wanted and worked hard in, my ego back lashes and i go into full on rumination, depression, self criticism route and i do nothing all day but ruminate, stalk, and waste my time thinking about what couldve shouldve wouldve. 

does anyone know how to break this cycle? how do you deal with undesirable outcomes and bad news in a healthier way? 

how do i allow myself to fully immerse in the experience and just live my emotions instead of ruminating? 

i just feel so depressed for the past 3 days and i have no motivation to do anything. i dont know how long it will take me to get over this but to move on in life i must get over it..

any help is appreciated

thanks so much everyone

[DrewNows]

give yourself permission to be depressed, sad, unhappy etc, but as soon as you feel ready, jump into a productive activity/chore (this will help the shift into a doing state for meditation and mindfulness). Let this be your time to reflect, make immense, forgive/love (release the negative energies); finally shift attention onto things you can control, like lifting someone else up/doing something nice

Edited March 5, 2020 by DrewNows

[Commodent]

Say "good". It's actually a pretty neat way to hack you brain.

[TrynaBeTurquoise]

@DrewNows Great advice