Should I Tell Her?

[Anton Rogachevski]

I see a guy that flirts with my girl on facebook and I'm clueless on what to do.

If didn't say anything i would be inauthentic, and if i did i would come out as jealous.

So what is happening?

[Donald]

What bothers you?

The fact that someone flirts with her and she is only yours?  The fact that she didn't tell you? .Or the fact that you are feeling jealous ?

[Anton Rogachevski]

@Donald

That I'm jealous.

Isn't it good to talk about how I feel with her? My fear is that keeping it inside is not being true to myself.

[Mal]

@Anton Rogachevski

Hi Anton,

Thanks for bringing this this up. Your conundrum beautifully represents the difference between outer and inner growth. 

What I'm projecting and assuming is that you are looking for an external solution, a tip or a way to deal with an approach your better half.

How about you go straight to the route and investigate why you are jealous?

Once that is dealt with whatever you say to her after that will be authentic, attractive and effective.

Wishing you the best

Mal

[Donald]

@Anton Rogachevski

As you experience the feeling of being jealous , pay attention and be honest with yourself . Whatever you are feeling is ok don't tell yourself I shouldn't be feeling this or that .Just pay attention so you will go to the route of the problem as @Mal said aswell.

[aurum]

You'd be authentic, but you'd be being authentic to a version of yourself that has been conditioned to believe you should freak out when your ex is talking to a guy on facebook.

I'm not saying you're wrong for being jealous or that you shouldn't say something. But like @Donald said, be very conscious while it's happening.

Otherwise, try doing the exact opposite. See if you can write down reasons why your ex should be talking to this person.