Failure

[jes]

I am feeling , I am failure, while working on personal development , rather than working on my insecurities ,and develop my self in all aspects , i failed , I thought I am developing but it was nothing but complacency , I got anxiety attack ,how can i proceed ?

[Mal]

@jes

Hi jes,

Your problems seem to be routed deeper than self actualization work. 

I strongly suggest you seek out a therapist, remove yourself from your toxic environment and work on challenging your fundamental beliefs.

There are some issues in life that cannot be fixed by forums and books. Even the assumption that two weeks applying tips from a forum is going to correct a lifetime of personality development and enculturation is absurd.

Please take responsibility for your own well-being. 

Mal

 

Edited June 20, 2016 by Mal

[Mal]

@jes

Jes,

I also think trying to apply secular ideas and techniques on top of a devout orthodox religious belief system is bound for failure.

The two don't mix.

Are there any therapists / counsellors in your religious tradition who are able to help you with these problems?

Mal

 

[Nathalie]

@jes Why do you concretely think, you've failed? @Mal  seems to know you so he/she can give you an advice..

But if one doesn't know you, it seems too global to me and so the anwer can only be vague..

Just one thing :

without failures you can't learn anything! See them as a chance.. Is it possible for you?

Edited June 20, 2016 by MartineF

[jes]

 

2 minutes ago, MartineF said:

But if one doesn't know you, it seems too global to me and so the anwer can only be vague..

true , I overgeneralize ,i am not failure , Its me projecting it , I will keep working no matter what , accepting myself in all aspects gave me some courage  thanks 

44 minutes ago, Mal said:

I strongly suggest you seek out a therapist

you are right, I will thanks 

[JustinS]

@jes Cultivate and master meditation. Begin to see the falsehood of these thoughts. Thoughts arise from nothing and are completely random. You suffer because you pick, choose, and believe in them. 

[jes]

@JustinS I just came from my meditation , I am peaceful  thanks , next time i will use awareness of developing these thoughts beginning , meditation is POWER

 

Edited June 20, 2016 by jes

[JustinS]

@jes That is great to hear jes.  You must not skip a day! Practice, practice, practice. Put it as your priority. Become a peaceful warrior. One day you will not need to meditate as you will be resting in awareness all the time.  

[jes]

1 minute ago, JustinS said:

Become a peaceful warrior. One day you will not need to meditate as you will be resting in awareness all the time.

That's what I am striving for, I wont give up on me at that part  , Meditation is reality ,rest is illusion  

[charlie2dogs]

On 6/20/2016 at 0:53 AM, jes said:

I am feeling , I am failure, while working on personal development , rather than working on my insecurities ,and develop my self in all aspects , i failed , I thought I am developing but it was nothing but complacency , I got anxiety attack ,how can i proceed ?

when you return to your original state of being and function as that, all these issues will be gone.