Hatred

[jes]

hello eveyone !!! I am working on my emotions lately , very recent I worked on fear not alone but with help of master , Hatred is something has taken enough space in my soul ,I am using Its ok technique , accepting my hatred is painful too , ( i resist it as well) 

Discussion is welcome

[Saarah]

@jes feel the hate, it's not going to do anything to you, it's not the painful element in this, only the resistance is painful 

So it's important to acknowledge resistance when it appears and let go of that

You might go into a story about the feeling, complaining or debating about anything related to it, you might try to change the feeling, deny it outright, ignore it and not do any work on it (but you're doing the work so happy days), and when such resistance arises then you can be reminded to stop and just feel, be aware and curiously observe. 

It will run its course and eventually be gone, no friction to your being 

[Mal]

Listen to Sarah,

She is the expert. She knows there's someone to "let go" and "resist".

Or, She could just parroting what she picked up from asking her own question to another poster about 2 days ago?

 

[Toby]

If you have a teacher/master, ask him. There are so many approaches, your teacher knows best what approach works best for you.

[Fello]

Can you explain more about your hatred?

 

 

[jes]

17 minutes ago, Fello said:

Can you explain more about your hatred?

 

 

I felt hatred ( intense) towards a person , which I want to change towards behavior , I have done some inner work on that , trying to accept the way it is , it will take time and patience 

[Saarah]

@jes I remember a really rough patch from late November till mid February I went through, and I listened to Alan Watts "There are no wrong feelings" video, a 10 minute snippet of his talk, you can YouTube it, also this was the time Leo's video of dealing with strong negative emotions came out. Both these helped me to be fully acknowledging my emotions, i realise I cried so many days and so hard so I felt like I was accepting my emotions 

The only problem is I also remember thinking constantly, when is it going to go away? I've cried and cried and the more I cry leads to more crying! But what I think is that having this expectation that it has to end at some point hindered me and delayed the feeling for longer. 

The more I was expecting it should go away some day, the more I was actually saying to myself "this feeling shouldn't be here, one day it will go right?" And that was therefore not really accepting it.

So don't wait for it to end, imagine you had to live with this emotion forever, what would you do instead? 

Hope that's useful  

[jes]

3 hours ago, Saarah said:

The only problem is I also remember thinking constantly, when is it going to go away? I've cried and cried and the more I cry leads to more crying! But what I think is that having this expectation that it has to end at some point hindered me and delayed the feeling for longer.

make sense thanks @Saarah