I Need to Get the Hell Out

[TDW1995]

I have always believed there are many benefits to being introverted on the self-actualization journey.  This helps me isolate myself for meditation and enlightenment work.  However, when it comes to relationships, I feel like being extremely introverted, as I am, is a major killer.  I am so used to waking up, leaving my apartment to go to work, then coming back home to my apartment to sleep, day after day.  I'm so used to this routine that "going out" seems so foreign and difficult for me to consider.  I've been to bars before, but it really isn't my scene (don't like alcohol and loud places), but I also know that this is the best place to work on approaching the opposite sex.  I know that I need to get out and approach people, but it's so damn hard!  Anyone else in this same situation?  Any tips on how to gradually push myself to be a little more extroverted and open to going out?  

[Chives99]

join meetups and other activities you enjoy. Their will be a social group for any kind of interest. You like medieval battle reenactments, their societies for that. Chess clubs are pretty much universal, you name it and it will exist. Then when you are engaging in something you love it wont be hard word socialising, your passion will be the driving force to help you improve and will do all of the heavy lifting. Their might even be a cute girl or guy for you at this social group, talk about your interests, go out on socials, bam you have friends and relationship opportunities. If you try cold approaching then the chances are you probably wont be compatible with them, its like trying to find  a needle in a hay stack, but focus that desire for a friends/ partner on your interests/ passions then you'll improve your chances. I don't give a shit about horses, but if idated someone and they were horsey mad, then it wouldn't work at all, because i literally just couldn't care less about the subject.

Edited January 24, 2020 by Chives99

[Shiva99]

 

16 hours ago, TDW1995 said:

I've been to bars before, but it really isn't my scene (don't like alcohol and loud places), but I also know that this is the best place to work on approaching the opposite sex.  I know that I need to get out and approach people, but it's so damn hard!  Anyone else in this same situation?  Any tips on how to gradually push myself to be a little more extroverted and open to going out?  

Pushing yourself to be someone you're not is the worst thing you can do. What's wrong with being introverted? You can meet people or get a girlfriend as an introvert through other means if you hate going to bars etc. 

[turtleneck]

There is nothing like going outside during the day and talking to people. This dude approach is very wholesome, he even talks about how talking to people randomly is a sort of active meditation for him, check it out  

 

[Pallero]

I'm an introvert and I find people to meet online. Then you can join group activities, like someone suggested, if that is not too difficult for you. You don't have to be an extrovert to meet people and make friends. Just find ways that suit you specifically.

[Arcangelo]

Or... put yourself in my shoes, I am a 40 yo that works at McDonald's so you guessed it: I can only afford to pay rent and buy weed. Going out sounds like a pipe dream to me. That's why when i do have money to buy groceries I approach girls at the super market but the security guards told me that was sexual harassment and i had to stop. 

You see? all in a sudden your life is great!