How much of self-talk means devilry?

[Javfly33]

As far as Im understand, self-talk with the intention of maintaining and surviving an Identity is devilry.

For example, I might have the opportunity to think or act in a different way to accomplish or see what I sense is of a higher level to my evolution, but because I want to keep being what I think I am, I resign. 

Self-talk which moves with the "flow" like creative talking and etc would be more aligned with reality.

I am not sure of the last paragraph thought.

It's very tricky to see when you are going forward and when you are being delusional to think that you are going forward.