your recomendetions on understanding aggression ?

[kira]

hi guys

hit me with everything you guys have on aggression. from kids to adult .. books, audio books, poadcast, forums, researschs, YouTube videos.  thanks you  

[loub]

Beware that your effort to understand might actually be a means to suppress.
Radical Honesty as a book has a very illuminating section on anger.
Contemplation as taught by Peter Ralston in his chapter "How to awaken the uncognized mind" (I think) from his book "The Book of Not Knowing" should get you very far, I reckon.

Good luck

[kira]

@loub  thanks. My 6 years old is being very aggressive and i want to understand why, so i can help her. i though if i could understand my own anger better maybe it will help me understand hers.

 

thanks for your recomendetations

[Zigzag Idiot]

Loving Light and the Beast

The distrust that is fundamental to the egoic perspective is based on not experiencing the goodness of the universe. From this distrust arises what we call the Beast, the part of the ego that is not only frustrated and angry, but also hates what is good and positive. When you are experiencing the Beast, if there is any love, you hate it and want to destroy it. “Where has it been? Where was it when I needed it?” or “God is supposed to be all-loving, all-merciful, all-compassionate, but if that’s true, why am I suffering so much and why is the world such a mess?” This part of the ego has the consciousness of a young child and it can’t rationalize these things as adults do, consoling and explaining to themselves that, “God is testing me.” Even though a child might not conceptualize it, the thinking is something like, “If God isn’t here when I really need Him, God is no good. If I stay open and vulnerable, I’ll get clobbered again, so what good is He? I don’t want Him—I hate Him. He just makes more trouble for me—I trust and then I get hurt. I had better just depend on myself and forget about Him. No more trusting—that’s it.”

Facets of Unity, pg. 48

from : https://www.diamondapproach.org/glossary/refinery_phrases/beast

 

Dividing Ourselves

At a deeper place, hatred implies self-hatred because hatred itself already reflects a duality: There is me and the other or me and what I hate, which is bound to be a duality within the self as well. Since in truth we are not a duality—we are an expression of the beingness of everything—if we hate anything, we are dividing ourselves, our awareness; we are hating part of our own consciousness. And we are separating ourselves from the oneness of our nature. It cannot be any other way. 

The Unfolding Now, pg. 107

from: https://www.diamondapproach.org/glossary/refinery_phrases/hatred

[kira]

@Zigzag Idiot this is actually really helpful, thanks for the suggestion i will def be reading this books.