Feeling embarrassed about dating curvy girls

[Ananta]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Men are attracted to all sorts of types. Which is why porn of every stripe exists. There are entire websites that cater to guys who like fat girls, skinny girls, tall girls, short girls, black girls, old girls, young girls, hairy girls, shaved girls, Asian girls, Muslim girls, Christian girls, even girls with dicks and a thousand other things.

The less people judge such things, the better.

Exactly! ❤

[Fede83]

9 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Men are attracted to all sorts of types. Which is why porn of every stripe exists. There are entire websites that cater to guys who like fat girls, skinny girls, tall girls, short girls, black girls, old girls, young girls, hairy girls, shaved girls, Asian girls, Muslim girls, Christian girls, even girls with dicks and a thousand other things.

The less people judge such things, the better.

Demn Leo u are from another world ❤️ Every time I read ur reply on posts i feel like ..how can know the truth ? Always ? Ur amazing human being thank u❤️

[Shin]

Curvy are the best, there is actually things to grab and pull towards you without feeling you could break a bone (in my opinion ? )

But yeah it's all relative and different for everyone, so don't be ashamed to find curvy girls sexy, embrace it.

So many guys (and girls) limit themselves to date or have sex with what they think they like, or is socially acceptable, like come on this is retarded ?

TL:DR Tell your friends to fuck off and have fun with whatever women you like ?

[outlandish]

@jerrypua I think you've gotten the point already, but just to kick a dead horse here

Would you rather date:

1. The woman that you're attracted to, or
2. The woman that you think other people are attracted to, or
3.  The woman that you think other people would think you're attracted to?

Don't feel embarrassed to date curvy girls that's for sure  Personally I think it's super cool how everyone has different tastes and fits with different types of bodies and personalities. The world is much more boring when everyone focuses on one Type A body or whatever.

[Ananta]

5 hours ago, Mikael89 said:

You can lie to yourself all you want,

Your a pro at that...not me.

[electroBeam]

Lets start a massive movement for liking curvy girls, and then call ourselves a minority that gets bullied, then have orange and blue freaks attack us with stupid arguments, then we get benefits like scholarships and welfare programs dedicated to us. 

[Shin]

11 hours ago, outlandish said:

@jerrypua

1.  The woman that you think other people would think you're attracted to ?

???

And then we can replace women with everything else we chase, and we have the origin of dissatisfaction ?

[jerrypua]

8 hours ago, Etherial Cat said:

I'd also think whether this pattern- of living through other's people judgment- is not only impacting this area of your life but other ones as well.

True man, i have to contemplate more about this. This shit is pretty important.

[PenguinPablo]

 

14 hours ago, Fede83 said:

Demn Leo u are from another world ❤️ Every time I read ur reply on posts i feel like ..how can know the truth ? Always ? Ur amazing human being thank u❤️

lol chill...

[FourSeasons]

@jerrypua

concentrate on what you like not what other think. 

Because at the end of the day you will be with that girl, not your friends. 

And guys, less think about what other guy will think this is not what woman like about man.. 

If girls sees that you feel emberesed or something you giving her negative energy and believe me, she will love or like you less. 

So just listen to your heart and choose what you like. Curvy, skinny or wht. 

And it will work out

Good luck ?

[outlandish]

Yeah @Etherial Cat @jerrypua I think most of us do this one way or another at various points in our lives, myself included in particular.

I don't think it's necessarily rooted in any kind of trauma, it could be but IMO it's just the typical byproduct of us humans being social creatures. We do all kinds of things at all kinds of scales to shortcut mental processing by observing the herd. It's not always bad to be influenced by the herd either, but it's definitely worth examining and being aware of it where it does occur, and bypass this reflex when it collides with what will truly make us happy. Mate selection is one of those situations for sure.

10 hours ago, Shin said:

???

And then we can replace women with everything else we chase, and we have the origin of dissatisfaction ?

So true! ?

[Nickyy]

On 27/11/2019 at 3:37 AM, jerrypua said:

I want to say that I really like thick and curvy girls but when I do pick up i don't feel comfortable going to approach them because I feel kind of embarrassed.

I don't know if I was programmed that there's a certain stereotype of beauty. Don't get me wrong I also like blond, white and some skinny girls, and Russian girls which are my favorite and I have no shame or embarrassment whatsoever on dating these girls, but as I said before I also like curvy girls, and I would actually like to have experiences with them, even date probably be in a relationship, but I feel i'm repressing my taste for those women.

Why is my ego doing it?

You're never going to get very far with women or anybody in life if you have such strong attachments to your preferences.

When you let go of these there will be a possibility that you will indeed become very attracted to women who are not considered "attractive" by societies general standards. 

This means that you're afraid that you will fall for one of these women who at the moment you don't see as "upto scratch". 

So yes, this is definately your ego talking. The first step to becoming liberated from the ego is to stop identifying with it and let your true self start to emerge and make the decisions for you.

[outlandish]

@Etherial Cat yes I think I see better what you mean now. I think we do come with some wiring to follow the herd, and we probably fall back on it more and more with trauma, whether the trauma be large scale, or the accumulation of these micro-traumas, or misunderstandings of how reality functions, which can become internalized as "you don't know what's up, that hurt, safer to follow the herd".

[CreamCat]

On 11/27/2019 at 0:37 PM, jerrypua said:

thick and curvy

Define thick and curvy. Different men have very different criteria for thick and curvy.

I love both thick and thin as long as they have curvatures.

Edited December 2, 2019 by CreamCat

[Arcangelo]

90cm breast - 60cm waist - 90cm butt

Last time I checked that has always been the definition of a perfect female body. When did that change.

The majority of men like girls like that. Just go watch a miss universe show or a victoria secret cat walk.

If it wasn't the majority then those girls at miss universe will be fat. Because it is what sells more.

OFC some guys like a different body type than 90-60-90 but they are a minority.

Hey Jerry one time i had sex with a fat girl. It felt amazing, like a water bed. But that was my only one time.

I want my girls to look like miss universe TBH.

 

 

Arc

 

[DrewNows]

Do you want me to see your hot side or ugly side? Tough luck you don’t get to decide what I focus on because I make my own happiness and whatever I focus on is simply providing me with the happiness I need right now 

[Ananta]

38 minutes ago, Arcangelo said:

60cm waist - 90cm butt

To put it into perspective, that's a size "0".

 

[Arcangelo]

36 minutes ago, Anna1 said:

To put it into perspective, that's a size "0".

 

I don't get it

 

[Arcangelo]

Hips not butt

[Ananta]

22 minutes ago, Arcangelo said:

I don't get it