What Is True Authenticity?

[JustinS]

Leo talks about in his "A Rant Against The PickUp Community" that we use authenticity to manipulate others, and that we haven't really got into the deep authenticity. Is real authenticity even a thing? Is it where one moves through from a place of Being? 

[Consept]

I guess with pick up or in general life, it's quite easy to good at seeming authentic. Certain looks you can give, things you say, coming across honest etc, but this can definitely be a learned skill.

One of the tests of whether you're being authentic especially when talking to people would be are you looking to get something out of the interaction. It could be that you want sex, reassurance, an ego boost, whatever it is if you're thinking about an outcome then you're adjusting your behavior for the best chance of that outcome. To be authentic there would have to be nothing in it for you and like you say you're just moving through a state of being. 

Very hard to master, for me personally it's difficult because I'm always aware of when I'm not coming from a place of being but I feel in the moment I can't do anything about it. Prob like that for a lot of people 

[JustinS]

22 hours ago, Consept said:

Very hard to master, for me personally it's difficult because I'm always aware of when I'm not coming from a place of being but I feel in the moment I can't do anything about it. Prob like that for a lot of people 

I feel you on this one. 

Slowing down and taking time helped me be more conscious of my answers and making sure they are coming from a genuine place, and not from a automatic/unconscious/socially acceptable place. A mix of active listening and observing the person you are talking to and taking the time to reflect from your inner state to provide that quality answer you want to share. It often seems like people want quick answers or that we feel rushed to give an answer so that we still have their attention. I think if the person you are talking to cares about what you have to say, they wouldn't mind you slowing down to step back at all. They would probably prefer that. Hope this kinda helps.