Shadow Work Technique: Feeding Your Deamons

[Shroomdoctor]

So I have read a book on a shadow work technique that left me with a HUGE Insight on my porn addiction in like a ten minutes session. Here I want to sahre the technique and my experience with you. 

THE TECHNIQUE:

 

The practice of feeding your deamons tries to nurture your shadow side, transforming them into allies, instead of inudlging or fighting them and therefore making them stronger. You feed your deamon what it really desires, the underlying want that it represents, so that it doesn't lash out with reprehensable behaviour to fullfill that need. The underlying desire for the deamon that stands behind your porn use might be for example the need for love.

 

The Practice

Feeding your deamon is a practice that takes around half an hour. Choose a quiet and comfortable place, where you will not be interrupted. Set up two sitting places, one for yourself and one for the deamon. Then close your eyes.

 

Step 01: Finding the Deamon

Decide which deamon you want to work on. Then take time to locate the daemon inside your body. Find where you feel ist energy, or ist resting place. You can try to bring up the emotion that is assocaited with it to better feel it. Then observe that sensation and try to really feel what ist like, ist shape, texture, maybe even smell sound or temperature.

 

Step 02: Meeting the Deamon

Let the found sensation take physical form in front of you. Whatever feels right, let that materialise. Don't try to change it. Make eye contact with it, really observe ist features. Then ask the deamon what it needs. Ask it:

What you you want from me?

What do you need from me?

How will you feel like if you get what you need?

 

Don't wait for an answer, but switch places with the deamon and become it.

 

Step 03: Become the Deamon

Move seats to the place of your deamon. Feel yourself becoming it fully, imagine yourself completely inside ist body. Then answer the questions:

What I want from you is…

What I need from you is…

When my need is met, I will feel…

 

The wanting part is the superficioul want that the deamon tries to take from you, while the need is the actualy underlying desire. Make sure to make the last answer a tangible feeling. That feeling is what you will feed the deamon.

 

Step 04: Meet your Ally

Return to your original position. Envision the deamon in front of you again. Begin imagining your body melting into a nectar of what the deamon needs. Notice ist colour, texture etc. It might be a fluid, or smoke or something else. Let the deamon absorbe the nectar. Notice if your deamons appearance begins to change. Dont think ist supposed to change a certain way, but just observe if it does.

 

Now observe the changed deamon in front of you. Ask it the following questions:

How will you help me?

How will you protect me?

What pledge do you make to me?

How can I access you?

 

Change places and answer the questions:

I will help you by…

I will protect you by…

I pledge I will…

You can gain access to me by…

 

Then changed places again and feel the newly formed ally flow into you, bathing you in ist support.


WHY I AM ADDICTED TO PORN

So I have met the deamon responsible for my sexual addictive tendencies. I always thought I used it as a form of getting intimacy and love and boy was I wrong. My deamon look depraved, skinny, the only huge thing was his dick. Picture gollum with a huge erection. 

Did you know how he answered my questions:

What he wants from me is Sex. Pleassure and Sex.

What he needs from me...(and here was the big surprise) is strength and conduct.

When his need is met, he will feel powerful. 

So man, that was an insight. I wasn't chasing love, whch is why getting with a girl never helped. I was chasing my depraved masculine power. My conduct. This just freaking blew my mind. No wonder I watched exclusively dominating porn. 

So when I fed the deamon it basically transformed into like an image of manliness crossed with a bull. 

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The bottom line is that I FINALLY understand why I cant chase this addiction. Because I am not feeding myself with what I am trying to simulate with it. Because I dont walk straight, because I dont speak my mind....I can count dozens of different things. 

So maybe this technique might help you to uncover the needs you are not feeding through your addictions. If so, feel free to tell me your experiance. 

 

[Aeris]

Hey good Luck with that.

May I ask

Why and what do you consider addiction ?

Does porn material escalate ?

Does it fuck with your hapiness ?

Does it feel like a chain to your life purpose ?

Does it feel like wasted Time / energy ?

Where could I put this energy instead ? ( That's important )

Why ?

Maybe don't go cold turkey. 

Replace activities with others

 

Edited November 21, 2019 by Aeris

[Milos Uzelac]

Sounds like a good technique thank you for sharing I need something of that sort right now when I try to sit and study to reduce the neurosis and habit from my daemon and its regular backlash when I am suppressing it, I will se to try it out as soon as possible. This caught my eye since I have a similiar addiction (different usually submissive porn though and having the need to when I study for a longer time to distract and numb my thoughts and emotions by jerking) issue (even more neurotic in fact as I am suppressing it then backsliding to it for 2 years now in longer or shorter time intervals). I'll see to share you my experience with the technique since I need to save some energy, focus and willpower for an important exam soon coming up in less then two weeks. 

[Shroomdoctor]

@Aeris All of the above.

[Javfly33]

Interesting technique. I'll try it out thanks!

I consider myself some how addicted to porn and I gotta say what really has helped is consciousnesss work. My porn tastes were/are driven by differentiation between human beings and consciousness work has shown me there are aren't. In fact I'm proyecting everything from my mind. So lately when I go watch porn if im conscious I just won't be able to finally use it since it's just so evident it's all so fake (I'm constructing the fake, as so are you!)