Experiences With Nofap

[Enizeo]

Yesterday I saw a post on this forum about personal development routines (I am going to link it down below). The guy who started the topic mentioned he was doing NoFap, and that he got really good results from it. If you don't know (like me), NoFap is a term used to describe the act of cutting porn and masturbation out of your life.

Now because I am really curious about this and also because the benefits he said he has from it really seem like the stuff that I am missing in my life, I wanted to ask if any of you have experiences with NoFap and/or can give some tips on how to do it effectively. Also I was wondering if NoFap has anything to do with having sex.

Thank you for your help

 

Edited February 8, 2016 by Enizeo

[Keyblade Viking]

I've heard about it too, tried it several times but my willpower is not nearly strong enough and I don't (consciously) suffer much from it so I don't think I gonna stop fapping anytime soon but inspiration or tips are always good.

I did "stop" watching porn about 2 years ago though and sometimes I fall back but it's really difficult to even find something good because you just see how disgusting it is and how much damage that shit have done to my mind in the past, mostly because it's all so fake and detached without any intimacy what so ever (except for certain lesbian porn but that's pretty much all I've found).

That's probably a good thing though because it means I won't become addicted or anything again but not fapping is fucking impossible, maybe because I never get laid like I've been programmed to need but idk.

[Arman]

You can have sex during NoFap. At least nofap as the modern movement kinda thing. It can have lots of impressive effects, especially in conjunction with meditation and taking care of your body. I don't think its going to be viable permanent or long term for 99% of people. I think its something every man should at least try for a few weeks to gain insight into themselves energetically. Quitting porn would be something I wouldn't mind doing though, because I think it can have a detriment on sex life.

[Franz]

I went with "NoFap" (never called it that/read any forums on it) while being single and now while being in a relationship

after having a "normal" history of fapping and porn when i was younger.

 I discovered for myself that the release of masturbation is a false, shallow one, especially when you are older and already fully discovered your sexuality.

You are wasting precious sexual energy every time you fap, energy that is meant to be channeled towards things in

life that require you to stand strong and errect (see the connection? funny, isnt it) and be a man.

Where does the expression "like a chronic masturbator" comes from? Its somebody who looks and acts spineless,

soft and weak when faced with resistance or is unwilling to penetrate even the surface of a womens personal space,

for example.

Dont be that, not even a tiny little bit. Its a relieve to leave fapping and porn behind, it will literally charge you up in many

situations. 

The reason society is so pro- porn and everyone kinda does it is because its easy and comfortable. It gives you

a false peace with yourself and the world, temporarily castrating you in a sense.

 

As with everything, give yourself time to adapt, be ok with minor setbacks and read more into it if you are still

not sure if its any good for you.

Have a great Day (sorry for mistakes, english is not my first language)

Edited February 8, 2016 by Franz

[Psychonaut]

I think that I'm a candidate that should really do NoFap. I watch so much porn every day and the porn has gotten so extremely sick and perverted to get me off. The worst thing is that I have zero motivation to get a girlfriend or even think about getting one. This works why should I even try getting a gf? It's a vicious cycle of self deception in which I'm ultimately cultivating more and more weird fetishes.

I wonder what happens if you don't fap at all? Aren't you extremely horny all the time?

[Franz]

2 minutes ago, Psychonaut said:

 

I wonder what happens if you don't fap at all? Aren't you extremely horny all the time?

Done it for months (with AND without sex) and yes you get horny all the time.

Thats for some part because you are used to quick satisfaction (gets better over time).

But its also the point of not doing it, you feel charged up to "attack" your life, and even 

if sex may not be the result at first, you feel satisfied after a day of hard work and improving

yourself. 

[Kazman]

Im currently reading mantak chias books about taoist meditation. 

He talks a lot about how you should refrain from ejaculation when you start your practice. Apparently a lot of energy goes to waste with only one shot of semen.

Kinda makes sense given his example that one shot if given one egg for every sperm could populate the entire US.

The reason I'm reading it is because I'm interested in tantra and spiritual sex, and using his techniques to sublimate my sexual energy when I wouldve normally fapped has taken my meditations to levels I never reached before! It's really something I didnt even know existed.

Also, I find myself being more outgoing when I stop ejaculating, the change becomes noticeable after around 10 days for me.

[Avi]

NoFap is extremely interesting. If a man cuts out PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) from his daily life then there will be some serious withdraw symptoms at first. The general consensus is cutting out PMO for 90 days is needed in order to reboot the brain and balance it back to the pre-porn "brain". 90 days is an average that most people have generally agreed upon. There is so much to this topic and I would like to redirect everyone to some very helpful websites that have really helped a lot of people with PMO or just P in general. Make sure to read through it so you can decide for yourself if this is worth it.  

YourBrainOnPorn: http://yourbrainonporn.com/ 

Reddit NoFap: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/   

[Heart of Space]

I saw this topic and fapped right after, thanks OP. 

I've done no fap before for a solid 3 weeks.  I didn't notice much tbh.  I don't watch porn, I think that's the true culprit, not fapping.  At best, you don't get those random urges to fap as much which allows for better concentration.  Idk, I may give no fap another shot at some point. 

[Black Flag]

So I have a love hate relationship with NoFap. I can see the benefits - just after 10 days even, there is a skip in my step and an energetic twinkle in my eyes. I swear girls notice you more; my head is held high and I walk with confidence. Birds sing sweeter and colours look brighter. Motivation comes easy and energy levels are through the roof when you're on a good streak. 

That's the love part of the relationship.

The hate part of the relationship is... Its fucking difficult.. especially with my drive haha.

I'm currently on a 30 day challenge and I'm on day 6. My max attempt has been to 19 days. Its an incredible use of willpower when there is a relapse urge but I just got to push through. I highly recommend the Reddit NoFap community, those guys are awesome and the relapse tool has helped me on numerous occasions! 

7 hours ago, Psychonaut said:

I think that I'm a candidate that should really do NoFap. I watch so much porn every day and the porn has gotten so extremely sick and perverted to get me off. The worst thing is that I have zero motivation to get a girlfriend or even think about getting one. This works why should I even try getting a gf? It's a vicious cycle of self deception in which I'm ultimately cultivating more and more weird fetishes.

You really do sound like the perfect candidate. Give it a try. 

[Stef]

Perhaps you're talking about me? Yeah, NoFap was my stepping stone into personal developement. I already started a topic about it in the relationship forum so you should check that out

 

edit: Nevermind, you were quoting someone else.  Here's the link to the thread.
 

 

Edited February 8, 2016 by Neuroticon