Addicted To Women

[nightlight]

Let me share something with you guys:

I am addicted to women and I am absolutely unable to stay attracted to them any longer than 3 months.

In fact, women have always been very admirable for me and you could even say they have unconsciously always been the purpose of my life. So I worked hard on myself to get better with them. And I did get better. A lot. I am a dancer know (what a surprise) and this is also how I meet many many women who are often pretty attracted to me.

Sounds cool right? Well it isn't. Because the more I have the possibility to be with girls, the bigger this issue gets. Being a Playboy is not a healthy lifestyle. An addiction does defenitely not get better when you get more "addictive substance" to consume.

As soon as I get together with a girl that I think is good for me and I would like to be with her, my life collapses like a house of cards. Why? Simple: I have always been working so hard on getting better with girls, because it has always been so important for me. Guess what happens with all these ideals, plans, visions, mindsets, characteristics, ..., that I have internalized as soon as I notice that I won't need them anymore, because I am actually in a situation now, in which I realize that from now on I should never ever try to get any other girl again..? Right, they just crumble into dust.. How can I describe this.. It's like your worldview you have had for your whole life suddenly has to change. Obviously not an easy thing..

Feel free to share your opinion on this. I will be happy to read your thoughts, and to answer if you have further questions.

[Ayla]

 

Just in case you're not here to attract any more of those.. (just a thought)... know that you are prompted to understand that you are looking for things to reinforce your opinion about YOURSELF: shallow, airy, immature, etc etc etc.... 

Really look into self esteem issues, it's never about "another" !

[nightlight]

Hi Ayla

Thank you for your answer.

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Just in case you're not here to attract any more of those.. (just a thought)...

No, I'm not.

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Really look into self esteem issues, it's never about "another" !

I am sorry, I don't understand this point. What do you mean by "another"?

Thank you a lot

[Ayla]

@nightlight

It is never about the women you attract. They only reflect a part of your relationship with yourself that you need to look into. 

[Ajax]

What do YOU want?  I imagine you don't even know which is why you are struggling.

If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always gotten.

Don't undo your mindsets, change it toward something else, creating a new reality.

[Natasha]

@nightlight It's not women you're addicted to, it's the excitement and the challenge of the chase. Once you get her and the chase is over, you look for the next 'fix'. Leo's recent vid about overcoming addictions has the solution:

http://www.actualized.org/articles/overcoming-addiction 

 

Edited June 1, 2016 by Natasha

[nightlight]

@Natasha thats a very interesting point, thank you!

I've watched the whole video and I can learn a lot of it.

I love this place here. It's so nurishing and here's so much understanding and love!

[Sarah Marie]

@nightlight

Sounds to me like you might be filling some sort of void within yourself. This is just your," drug of choice."

Figure out what that chase high is giving you.