Principle Of Self Actualisation

[Huz]

Would you guys say a principle of self actualisation is that you just don't care about the problem you were trying to fix in the first place. For example, say you were getting neurotic about how you want more relationships and to get better with the opposite sex. But the actualised human being would care weather he has a good reputation with the opposite sex and it wont bother him if he isn't getting any. Or for example, you are shy and anxious around other people. A self actualised person wont care that he is shy or the most popular and just accept what is.

[Mal]

@Huz88

Hi there..

In my opinion a self actualised person would indeed be "getting some" (I presume you mean sex here). 

You care about the problem, you still try to fix it.  But the difference is, is it really a problem? And is it worth trying to fix? 

Some things are just not worth fixing.  Some emotional traumas are not going to be resolved either. 

Reputation is a game one plays for enjoyment and betterment of skill rather than a desperate neediness to project an image so that other deficient people can cling to for status and security. 

If you lose something it's fine, it doesn't affect you, maybe momentarily because the ego is always there and is the only way we can interact with the world and other people.  Shyness and popularity go out of the equation because these are based on deficiency thinking -nothing ultimately matters because the ego is just a toy for pleasure and satisfaction rather than just a fragmented separate little lonely entity desperately seeking happiness. 

Mal

Edited May 29, 2016 by Mal

[Corte]

Often it's nothing more than a false thought/belief you hold onto so dearly that gets exposed by truth and seeing it from this perspective it's hard to understand why it was even a problem to begin with.

Through this, caring is lost. Be careful with this, because it can get confused with "turning off emotionally" and not allowing things to effect you the way they should. Shyness doesn't get solved by just not caring anymore, shyness gets solved when you accept it and see it for what it is in truth, and realizing it was created by you and it never needed to be a problem. THEN you don't have to care anymore.

[Leo Gura]

@Huz88 If you can let it go, let it go. If you cannot let it go after several attempts, then you're stuck working through it. Sometimes you can just let something go by merely realize, "Oh, wait a minute... I don't really need this. Duuuh! What was I thinking?"

And sometimes you can't.