How honest can you be?

[Elia]

I have a friend who is counselor in a school. And the other day she told me that she had a guy come in, he has suicidal thoughts so they talked about it. She told him that she was sorry he was going through this. To which he replied that she didnt have to feel sorry, that deep down no one cares, people like her are just trained to say these things. She didnt know what to reply and honestly what do you reply to such a thing? 

Because in the end it's true. Nobody cares ultimately. Unless the other person has something to offer to you. 

And I was wondering also in the same train of thought, in our relationships with others how honest can you be? If we were 100% honest, we would admit that we are using others all the time for all sorts of reasons. For eg if people were more honest, a child asking their parents why they had him/her would hear that he/she was brought into this world to give his/her parents a sense of purpose or alleviate their loneliness. 

what are your thoughts on this?

 

[Nickyy]

@Elia I think before you can be honest with others you have to learn to be honest with yourself. 

In a work situation yes you have to do what you have to do to keep a roof over your head. Sadly at this point in history this is a necessity. Hopefully it won't always be that way. But I don't hold much hope for humanity at large to awaken. 

But if you're honest with yourself about everything that is going on in you, then there will be no need to lie to anyone about your intent because you will be healing yourself and becoming authentic. 

It would be very difficult to find someone to be authentic with unless they were deeply committed to personal growth and you both had an understanding of the process of becoming authentic. 

 

[Leo Gura]

There's nothing honest about that. Plenty of people care.

Counselors are supposed to be trained to handle situations like that. This is what basic life coach training is for.

Being gay is a great thing and there's nothing depressing about it. A good counselor would help her client reframe the situation and see it in a loving and truthful manner.

If a client hates himself, that's not honest or truthful, that's falsehood and delusion. The coach's job is to show him the error of his thinking.

Sounds like your counselor friend needs better training and a deeper understanding of consciousness work.

Many counselors and coaches deeply care about their clients.

How you reply to such a thing is you guide the client's mind out of his delusional thinking by getting him to become more conscious of how his mind is creating this negative meaning. It's not about saying something positive to cheer him up. It's about helping him discover the Truth! -- which is that all is Love.

Self-hatred is a misuse of the mind.

[universe]

Have you heard of unconditional love?

 

What you mean is that deep down everyone only cares about themselves. Maybe your right. Doesnt matter. When you go a little bit deeper than that you find that everyone is also everyone else.

Love is the answer, not the lie.