What are the most fundamental Life Skills for a self actualized life?

[Leo Kaminski]

Hey Guys, 

I was curious to hear some perspectives on this specific points.

What do you think are the most important 20+ life skills a human being in todays (western european) society has to develop in order to self actualize properly?

@Leo Gura & everybody else 

 

Please list your 20 most fundamental "Life Skills". Obviously each of these skills has a subjective meaning. 

 

Example List

- Hard Work

- Strategizing

- Knowing how to gain Clarity about own Goals & Dreams 

- Researching

- Growing, Maintaining and Using a Commonplacebook

- Setting Goals

- Observing the Mind / Ego (self reflect)

- Observing & Feeling the Body

- Defining Your Core (Values, Purpose etc.)

- Following Your Dreams & Passions

- Being Confident & Dreaming Big

- Self Mastery about Addictions (Food, Entertainment, Porn etc.)

 

Gonna stop here. Do not want to influence to heavy even though I probably did already. Also I am well aware that these skills show my current state of development. At a later stage e.g. 10 years from now these priorities on the skills I listed might change and other skills would be more important. 

Now I am excited for someone else list!

 

 

 

[TheAvatarState]

Concentration ability.

Open-mindedness.

Innate thirst for truth and understanding. 

Multi-perspectival

[Knock]

• Principle centred valuation in lifes choices
• Vision
• Personal power (The ability to search and take action on whats meaningful to you)
• Gratitude

Edited October 30, 2019 by Knock

[Hello from Russia]

Concentraion (focus)
Observation (mindfulness)
Charisma and persuasion
Ability to take action
Business, marketing and sales skills
Thinking in systems
Strategizing and productivity
Creativity (Industriousness, putting stuff into the world)
Mastery (Set of skills in some narrow domain)
Managing emotions, mental skills (refers back to charisma aswell)
Sex and attraction
Relationship savvy skills
Leadership
Household


 

[Bill W]

Impulse control

Not taking things personally 

Open mindedness 

[Meditationdude]

@Leo Kaminski

Diet + Exercise + Sleep + Water 

Concentration + Mindfulness

Discipline + Motivation 

Honesty + Integrity

Authenticity

Spiral Development 

Emotional Intelligence  

Humility 

Sobriety 

 

 

[MAYA EL]

I think the most important one would be the ability to really and truly think for yourself 

[RichardY]

Designing Superman The Lastman.

1) Extreme Wilderness Survival.
2) Contemplation 
3) A Metaphysic. 
4) Fiction and Novel reading.
5) Oration, Giving Speeches.
6) Design.
7) Seduction.
8) Event Organisation.
9) A Healthy heart(Cardiovascular health).
10) Journaling, Diary or Commonplace Book.
11) Altruism.
12) Trade Skill or Profession.
13) Friendship.
14) Discipline. Non-addiction.
15) Financial.
16) Diet.
17) Networking.
18) Post Enlightenment History.
19) E-commerce.
20) Political Connections. Or, apolitical setup.

 

[Rigel]

Get in touch with your emotions

Learn how to learn

Observe 

Master 

Create 

 

[Ferdi Le]

C++

[Seeker_87]

-Learning to meditate

-Self reflection skills

-Curiosity

-Honesty

-Trust to the higher power

[Hello from Russia]

17 hours ago, Ferdi Le said:

C++

What is your reasoning behind that?

[Leeeon]

@Ferdi Le lol  

Edited December 16, 2019 by Leeeon

[assx95]

@Leo Kaminski 

1.Being able to sit in a room for an hour, unplugged from all stimulation and not moving even to scratch an itch. (Connection with being). I would say this is synonymous to meditation. 

2. Not avoiding emotional labor. 

3. Radical open-mindedness which is the same as not sticking rigidly to pet theories and ideologies. 

4. Contemplation

That's it for now. Things I am focusing on. 

 

[skywords]

@assx95

What happened to your post on your leaving your mother angry?

I was in the middle of typing an answer and suddenly the words, "we can't locate destination," or some such meaning, came up.

Do you know?  Still want responses to that post?

[assx95]

10 minutes ago, skywords said:

Do you know?  Still want responses to that post?

I hid it. 

I didn't want to crowd the forum with an issue that is more or less resolved. 

I appreciate everyone's input, including yours. 

 

[skywords]

@assx95

If you think you resolved the problem by just not talking to your mom ~ what I was in the middle of writing was that you've just swept the problem under the rug.  Or worse, imminent explosion, some time in the future!

I was in the middle of suggesting that you really contemplate on the "problem" and the discomfort until you really feel good about it.  That you contemplate on it, as Leo would say, without any assumptions or thoughts, just experience it fully for a length of time until it leads you to an insight, enlightenment, that empathizes with both you, yourself, and her.

I was going to restate my suggestion that you check YouTubes on Nonviolent communication, with empathy in mind.

Anyway, that's what I was writing..

If you've lost interest, fine.  Sorry, in that case.  I just like to complete my efforts at communication.

And I also wanted to know whether you had, indeed, told your mother that "forest," really means populated town with amenities and comforts of home.

???  Did you  ???????

 

[assx95]

1 minute ago, skywords said:

And I also wanted to know whether you had, indeed, told your mother that "forest," really means populated town with amenities and comforts of home.

???  Did you  ???????

I just told her what she wanted to hear, the things she was complaining about. And then she laughed it off. 

She told me that a mother would never want something to wrong with their child. 

I mean, she'll forget about it. That's how it is. I'll be more aware to engage with individuals within their imagined boundaries of what could be talked about. 

 

[skywords]

@assx95

26 minutes ago, assx95 said:

I just told her what she wanted to hear, the things she was complaining about. And then she laughed it off. 

She told me that a mother would never want something to wrong with their child. 

I mean, she'll forget about it. That's how it is. I'll be more aware to engage with individuals within their imagined boundaries of what could be talked about. 

 

As long as you're MOST AWARE of YOUR OWN "imagined boundaries of what could be talked about," right?

In other words, YOU be the ACTIVE agent, the one who is CREATIVELY and AUTHENTICALLY initiating a more Enlightened Relationship/Dance with Life, with others, with yourself, right??????

[R-Type]

Back to the topic, I'd say - according to Naval Ravikant - it's important to get the fundamentals right. For me it would be these:

- solid understanding of psychology and sociology 

- solid understanding of economics and politics 

- solid knowledge of biology (esp human anatomy), chemistry, physics and math

- systems thinking (in order to put the above together and apply to one's own life) 

Edited December 16, 2019 by R-Type