Are You Really Worried About loosing your loved one?

[electroBeam]

Are you struggling to leave/with a left loved one? If so, read on...

Assuming you are in a relationship. Just imagine that your spouse actually loves you and you actually love her even if you don't believe so. Now really try to imagine the following scenarios.

Scenario 1

You have just left work, and a person rings you up on your phone. He/She says "Hi is this <your name>" "Yes it is, who is this?" "This is the police, we regret to inform you that your loved one has just been in a car crash and has died on the scene".

Imagine being at her funeral, and you lay down flowers, or a name tag with a cute name you called her, or maybe the first gift you gave her, etc. Imagine how sad that funeral event would be.

Once you're done, go on to scenario 2

Scenario 2.

your loved one have just left work, and a person rings your loved one up on your phone. He/She says "Hi is this <your loved one's name>" "Yes it is, who is this?" "This is the police, we regret to inform you that your loved(you) one has just been in a car crash and has died on the scene".

Imagine your loved one is at your funeral, and she lays down flowers, or a name tag with a cute name she called you, or maybe a gift she gave you, a really special one. Or a cute card.

Once you're done, move on to this:

 

I want to you to ask yourself, in which scenario were you more sad? If you were careful you would have noticed you were more sad in scenario 2.

 

Isn't this strange? You're so scared about you loosing her but in the scenarios above, the saddest part was about her loosing you

What does this say about your attachments to her/him?

Lets do 1 more set of scenarios:

Scenario 1

You decide to make it up to your loved one before she fully commits to her lover. As you walk up to her house, you see her and her lover, but she's holding a baby. You mourn and cry over this fact, realising its over. 

Scenario 2

Your loved one decides to make it up to you before you fully commit to your lover. As she/he walks up to your house, she sees you and your lover, but your holding a baby. She mourn and cry over this fact, realising its over. 

 

Again which scenario is worse?

Omg its scenario 2 again!

 

"Oh electrobeam, but this is because I truly care about her, see its proven because the scenario 2s are the ones that hurt me more, because I care about hurting my loved one"

Ok if you think that, go back to scenario 2, and identify WHY it makes you sad. Is it because you care about hurting your loved one, or is it because you are sad about loosing your old self, the old self that has the current loved one?

Have you noticed that in all of the scenarios, the sad part is about the old YOU being lost? Its got fuck all to do with your loved one...

So I beg the question, are you really worried about loosing your girlfriend/boyfriend?