Responsible for your own feelings?

[EvilAngel]

Some people say that we are 100% responsible for our own feelings. 

This has never been true in my experience. Things that other people do affect me. I have limited control over how I feel. 

Can someone explain this to me? 

[Nahm]

Who has been responsible for your feelings thus far? 

What would it feel like, if you did? How would you choose to feel?

Would other people still be able to affect how you feel? 

Why or why not?

[EvilAngel]

2 minutes ago, Nahm said:

Who has been responsible for your feelings thus far? 

No one. They just happen. Thoughts are automatic, therefore the corresponding feelings arise automatically. Responsibility does not even come into it. If someone abuses me, they are responsible not for my pain, but for the action they took to cause me pain. I am responsible for my reaction to the abuse, but whether I feel pain or not is not in my control. 

What would it feel like, if you did? How would you choose to feel?

Happy. Happy all the time. 

Would other people still be able to affect how you feel? 

Obviously the answer to that is no. 

Why or why not?

Because I would be in control. 

 

[ivankiss]

Others can hurt you and you can still realize the feelings you feel are being cultivated within your being, out of your energy, by you.

Emotional mastery is not about control. It is about understanding how to transform energy in motion using the power of our loving hearts.

[Dinsdale]

In my experience feelings are not things to be controlled, but things to be accepted, and understood. 

It's the acceptance which is transformative, not wishing things to be otherwise. 

Edited October 26, 2019 by Dinsdale

[Nahm]

@EvilAngel What would taking responsibility for how you feel look like? How would you begin? 

[zeroISinfinity]

There is only One feeling left and it's Love all the time. Like All the time.Once mini you is gone. Find refugee in your Heart. 

[Dinsdale]

Answering question with questions looks clever but really isn't. 

[EvilAngel]

1 hour ago, Nahm said:

@EvilAngel What would taking responsibility for how you feel look like? How would you begin? 

Thinking differently about a situation, by counteracting a negative thought with a positive one. ?

I understand we have some control, (or what feels like control), but I've never met anyone who was FULLY in control and that's why I started the thread, because I actually think full control of one's feelings is impossible. 

[EvilAngel]

2 minutes ago, Dinsdale said:

Answering question with questions looks clever but really isn't. 

???

That made me laugh. But you can see why asking questions can be more useful than giving straightforward answers, because it makes you think. 

[AlwaysBeNice]

I don't know, but the only area that we have control over is the one that we must exercise no?

I thought the other day, just poetically:

33,33% decided by past conditioning

33,33% decided by surroundings

33,34% decided by free will

[Nahm]

27 minutes ago, EvilAngel said:

Thinking differently about a situation, by counteracting a negative thought with a positive one. ?

I understand we have some control, (or what feels like control), but I've never met anyone who was FULLY in control and that's why I started the thread, because I actually think full control of one's feelings is impossible. 

 Last questions...

How does it feel when you think it is impossible?

Are you the feelings & thoughts, or are you a separate entity which possesses, or could control feelings & thoughts?

[EvilAngel]

Just now, Nahm said:

 Last questions...

How does it feel when you think it is impossible?

Are you the feelings & thoughts, or are you a separate entity which possesses, or could control feelings & thoughts?

 

-Yeah it doesn't feel good to think I have no control... 

-blah, blah, blah I am the awareness of the thoughts and feelings...zzzzz

What's my grade? 

[Nahm]

16 minutes ago, EvilAngel said:

-Yeah it doesn't feel good to think I have no control... 

Maybe listen to how you feel instead of what you think. Try it for a day, see how it goes. It could lead to thinking about what feels good. Could lead to feeling good, and having better thoughts. 

-blah, blah, blah I am the awareness of the thoughts and feelings...zzzzz

? nice one. 

What's my grade? 

Well...how do you feel? 

 

[Dinsdale]

Sorry, but the questions still sound like pretentious bollocks. 

I don't think this forum is authentic. Too much BS. 

I will add it to the list, and advise everyone to avoid it. 

 

Edited October 26, 2019 by Dinsdale

[EvilAngel]

@Dinsdale

1 hour ago, Dinsdale said:

Sorry, but the questions still sound like pretentious bollocks. 

I don't think this forum is authentic. Too much BS. 

I will add it to the list, and advise everyone to avoid it. 

 

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See ya.