Can life purpose solve the dating issue?

[How to be wise]

I’m wondering if acing your life purpose and becoming world-class in something will solve the issue of attracting a girl? The logic is that if you are really good at helping a certain niche group of people, that at least one of them would be really grateful and would be attracted to you. There seems to be something attractive about someone who is really good at something. I don’t know really but it makes sense. What do you guys think about this?

[Thomas_VH]

While it's certainly possible that girls can get attracted to you because of the reason(s) you mentioned, if you want to attract girls you might as well learn attraction directly.

[How to be wise]

@Thomas_VH well, right now I'm working full time on my life purpose. I'm trying to build the initial momentum so I don't have time to spend with dating. 

[Forestluv]

Sure, mastering something is very attractive - as long as the person isn’t an arrogant jackass. Even then, some women would still be attracted.

And it’s not just women. Guys are often attracted to a female master. A female jazz musician that has mastered the saxophone is super hot to me. 

[MAYA EL]

It's hard to find women because people make it that way. What I mean by this is guys are willing to f*** anything that doesn't have a dick and some things that do have a dick their goal is to get laid as often as possible by as many hot women as possible and that goal remains number one in their life for the majority of their life and so because they have a public style expression of sexual behavior It Is by no means sacred and to top it off they are sharing their energy signature with God only knows how many random people and then expect to find a committed loving beautiful talented soulmate which is a ridiculous thing to expect because that has a criteria which is opposite of the actions the average person takes.

It's a lot like expecting to get  your skydivers license just because you've watched some TV shows about skydiving but haven't actually put the effort in to even ever stepping foot on a plane so obviously you're not going to get a skydiving license unless you play by the rules put in the hours and do your jumps and same goes for finding a woman if you want a woman act like the type of man that has a woman and one will find you.

[DrewNows]

No I don’t think it does. You see, only dating will solve the dating issue lol. Excuses are just excuses and may reveal other issues. Take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings. Life purpose is a calling and If there’s a willingness to take on this calling, there is no longer a life purpose issue. We create our issues through resisting what is 

[Commodent]

A life purpose is super important when it comes to attraction. But if that's the only thing you need? I'm not so sure. The thing about an LP is that it gives you this kind of unswayable frame when it comes to other people, which makes socialisation so much easier. You still gotta socialise in order to actually meet people and get to know them though, but if you have an LP you're kinda detached from the outcome, which makes taking initiative with other people unproblematic. 

[Leo Gura]

Being successful and a leader in your field opens a lot of doors and opportunities.

Once you get really good in your field and people start to know about you, women will naturally come your way. This is mostly because you have become more visible, not because they want your money.

But still, I wouldn't rely on this strategy exclusively. If you're a computer nerd working in your basement 12 hours a day, no women will ever find you no matter how good you are. You gotta start being visible publicly.

The key is being more social. And getting good in your field can help you to increase your socialness.

Why do rockstars get laid every night? Because they are visible to 10,000 people every night. Not because there's anything special about playing music. Although girls love music because it boosts their emotional state, so that does help. Music is like a drug.

Or, you could just increase your socialness by going out every night and being social. Waiting for women to come to you is indirect.

[infinitelove]

@Leo Gura from a developmental point of view, why would we care about music,entertainemt... etc 

 

 

 

[Leo Gura]

@infinitelove Have I told you to care about them?

Care about whatever you want.

[infinitelove]

@Leo Gura as Humans ???

[Elisabeth]

13 hours ago, How to be wise said:

I’m wondering if acing your life purpose and becoming world-class in something will solve the issue of attracting a girl? The logic is that if you are really good at helping a certain niche group of people, that at least one of them would be really grateful and would be attracted to you. There seems to be something attractive about someone who is really good at something. I don’t know really but it makes sense. What do you guys think about this?

Yes, mastery and confidence are attractive. I don't know what your field is, but if you speak about something confidently in public, you may as well have a bunch of fan-girls follow you. 

Let me warn you though that this is quite insufficient as a basis of a relationship. You'll still have to get to know the other person, and they will get to know the real you outside of your domain of mastery, in your greatest vulnerabilities. The rose-coloured glasses a girl gets when she sees someone who's confident in their field - take care to get them off early. Like, first date already, you should be letting her see who you really are aside from that persona. Otherwise, you can end up with some serious incompatibility in your relationship, when she expects that superhero that she saw talking, while you, in fact, very much need someone who's able to love the much more tender parts of yourself.

[Oeaohoo]

Sure - but not if that's the reason you're doing it!

[Arthur]

On 16/10/2019 at 6:28 PM, How to be wise said:

The logic is that if you are really good at helping a certain niche group of people, that at least one of them would be really grateful and would be attracted to you.

But would you want a girl to sleep with you just because she's grateful? That sound like she's returning you a favour..  Better if she's attracted to the personality traits you developed while living your LP.

Edited October 18, 2019 by Arthur